putawetsuiton Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 I seem to have a lot of triggers that painfully remind me of my ex, everywhere I go I will see or hear something that will make me stop for a moment. It can even change my whole mood. Anyone else relate to this or have any advice on how to overcome it? thanks
reinventmyself Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 I seem to have a lot of triggers that painfully remind me of my ex, everywhere I go I will see or hear something that will make me stop for a moment. It can even change my whole mood. Anyone else relate to this or have any advice on how to overcome it? thanks Time and exposure. In the beginning when you are really vulnerable it's probably best to avoid them if possible. But at some point you can't stop them. Exposure and time deflates their hold on you. I wish there was a short cut and a magic answer for you. Just know what you are experiencing is normal and try to be patient with yourself.
Dottieflanogon Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 what you are going through is natural. i suggest being patient with yourself. it will take a while to move on from these feelings. Do your best to stay busy. Time will heal
jobelle Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 I can definitely relate to that. And it can happen when you least expect it. Accept that it's normal and it's ok, be patient with yourself.
kathy679 Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 How long ago did you break up? it is normal and in time it will fade. A soppy song is always bad for making you feel worse, listen to a break up song and its like you can relate to every word. Time time time....its the only answer. and of course keeping busy. it is terribly painful but it gets easier
putawetsuiton Posted November 13, 2015 Author Posted November 13, 2015 it's been 3 months now, so a while. Was hoping things would be better in relation to triggers by now.It seems to have gotten worse with the festive season approaching
kathy679 Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Three months isn't long. Someone said to Me with my break up you Have to experience all the season's without them first. 3 months is early days so don't beat yourself up
Mad Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 Three months is not so much. I mourned an ex during almost two years. I can assure you that some things will put you in the same mood, 3 months or 30. Love has its price. Be strong.
dschwartz Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 Like everyone else has said, what you're feeling is completely normal and something I recently went through myself. What helped was knowing that I loved my ex and with that love I wanted her to be happy. Time heals all pain, but don't ignore the pain, feel and acknowledge it. You may not feel like smiling today, but you will.
Doc Blaze Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Ive been having a lot this week. the holidays are coming and it keeps triggering things we used to do together in the past...def sucks...
Mad Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 If you go to the market you are going to see that product that she loves and these other things that you buy for her just to make her smile. If you choose to go downtown you'll see that pub, or the book store. The coffee where both of you drank chocolate, cuddled, while it was snowy outside. And that lingerie shop. You can't even look at it now. Now you'll see the theater where you used to go. And the movies... That restaurant. That beautiful street. This park bench. All those big gardens over there. Man, it's impossible to live without being triggered once and another, but it's the way to go. It sucks, it hurts as much as you can imagine, but there is no easy way for this. Remember the beautiful memories, keep faith (if you want. In my story I want for sure) that maybe in the future... and keep walking. You are not alone here.
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