shemmyemmy23 Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 A month ago I matched with this guy on tinder and we talked for a little but it didn't progress anywhere. I also work in retail and he said he recognised me from there as he is always coming into the store and said he sees me quite a bit. I thought he was cute so I decided to take the plunge and asked him out for a drink and he said yes. We met for drinks and I thought it went pretty well, we were chatting, laughing. We didn't have a kiss at the end of the date but I wasn't too fixated on that. At the end of the date he put his number in my phone and I told him I would message him and he said he would drop into my workplace on Wednesday (today) to see me. After the date, I messaged him "hey it's shenay" so he would have my number and he asked if I enjoyed the date to which I replied that I had and asked him the same and he too enjoyed the date and said he was grateful I had asked him out. Then he asked me if I was free next Monday as he has a Christmas dinner party to attend at his university with a bunch of his friends and asked if I would like to join him and I initially said yes but then realised I had plans and couldn't make it and he said it was a shame and we will do something else next week. After that nothing has really happened. I know the date only happened a few days ago but we haven't been texting much since. He messaged me in the morning the day after and we had a conversation and I later messaged him in the evening but the conversation was short. And today I was at work and he came in to my workplace but I can't be sure whether he came in because it's the nearest and most convenient supermarket for him to go to or because he wanted to see me. After we spoke for a bit he left and we haven't texted at all since. What's going on??
j.man Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 Did you offer another day when you turned down his plans? I know I personally have no interest in getting to know a woman over text and if she turns down my date offer, I'm going to be even less eager to have lengthy SMS discussions. Do the grown up thing and get to know each other in person.
Dottieflanogon Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 why didn't you offer alternative plans after turning down his plans? You also have to meet him half way girl. Contact him and just start off how you would normally start a conversation. Just ask him how he is, then ask if he would like to spend time together in person
thejigsup Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 Yeah. If you didn't suggest an alternate date, he's probably done. That was giving him the signal you weren't really into him.
shemmyemmy23 Posted November 12, 2015 Author Posted November 12, 2015 I guess when he asked and I declined and he said we could do something else next week, I thought it was something we would talk about at a later time and I didn't think to suggest an alternative date but obviously would still like to carry on seeing him.
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