mmnyc5052 Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 I am distraught. I have a dachshund, 13 years old this weekend. She feel very ill very suddenly yesterday and she is now in the animal hospital in an oxygen cage, dealing with lung disease which pressures her heart. I was young when my previous pets (rabbits) died. I was devastated, but I never formed a bond quite like I have with my Coco. She is so sweet, never barks, cuddles when needed, we call her our tiny dancer because she hops around whenever we come home. I feel guilt for not having spent every single second with her. I feel sadness and helplessness. I want to scoop her up and tell her it will be okay. I know this is a relationship forum and in the past I have received great relationship advice but now I am in a place where it seems my message is so 10,0000x more important than any other I have posted. How do you deal? What do you do? I can't imagine moving on right now. Docs say with certain medicine she MAY have 2-6 months but we visited her this evening and she looked completely exhausted, tired with life, not eating (and she's a big eater). There's an IV in her paw, and I don't know what to do. I can't even post this message properly. Any advice welcome. My baby, my world, she is fading, why is death a thing?
HeartGoesOn Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 I'm so sorry, and my heart goes out to you. Be kind to yourself and...*Hugs*
iknowhowtolove Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 I'm so sorry! I know how hard it is lose a loving pet. Last year, I lost my beloved bunny who I had for more than 11 years I felt so helpless because I couldn't save her life. She was very ill and when I took her to the vet he told me she needed to be hospitalized because she was very ill but I couldn't afford it. I brought her back home and she died here. It was one of the saddest days of my life. Unfortunately, death is not something we can escape. Enjoy the last moments with your dog and just make her feel how much you love her. I have two dogs and I know how much love they give us. Just appreciate the time you have spent with her and know that one she is gone she will no longer be suffering. I'm really sorry!
SomeRandomHero Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 I am so sorry, loss of pets is very hard. I have lost 3 dogs. It is heart breaking, especially when it happens suddenly or at a young age i lost two dogs one 6 and one 7 years old both of kidney failure. and my first dog broke out of the house and was hit by a car. It is tough remember the good times theyll always remain in your soul, and when you get a new dog show it all the love you can, because its all you can do and go to some adoption shelters and bring one or FIVE home that need it i adopted a dog and it was amazing she was such a sweet heart. my parents always bought full bred dogs and after i adopted and there 3rd passed they went to the shelter and adopted a sweet shepard who they love dearly.
jobelle Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 I am so sorry. Earlier this year I lost my 15 year-old dog. We had a great bond and she helped me through so much in my teenage years. To make myself feel better, I choose to focus on the fact that she had a great dog life. She was very spoiled and cuddled and I believe she was happy and that she knew we loved her.
WithLove Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 I'm really sorry to hear about this. I hope she is doing better today. Sending loving thoughts to Coco.
Pixels Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 Sorry for your loss. I'm quite familiar with losing pets as well, though never a dog... Though in a less literal sense I have lost my own dog to familial insanity. For whatever it's worth, I've come to feel that 'animals' are better-equipped to deal with their own mortality... The lack of metaphysical abstract constructs helps them cope in the here-and-now... From my perspective, she lived for your approval and affection as a pack leader (even if her efforts were sometimes misplaced or misunderstood)... In her mind, your love and attention confirmed to her that she had a fulfilling life, and that she did what she could to make her pack stronger. Sympathizing from her perspective, I think the ideal thing you could do is minimize her pain and suffering, and show her praise and love throughout the experience... To further respect her, become a stronger group/family/pack from her influence in your lives, especially if that means using your gained resources (experience) from her to further another new member or generation when the time is right... In her eyes, you and your 'pack' were her life, so fulfill her ultimate duty by moving on and recognizing her influence beyond a physical presence...
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