I feel like he has cooled towards me and I don't know why?

[Gaynor]

I met a lovely guy through friends about 6 weeks ago. He has a really busy job and lives quite a way away but after we met he started messaging me and seemed really keen to get to know me. He seemed like he really wanted to see me and we met up a few weekends in a row, went out for dinner and drinks etc. We ended up sleeping together the last time....I felt a little awkward about it the next day but he seemed fine but as I left he said he wasn't sure when he'd be free next as he was away working the next few weekends..when I got home he was messaging to make sure I got home ok, and although he was working away he would still message me throughout the day, sending photos of random stuff and generally making conversation.after a week or so of this I suggested meeting again as I had some days off but he said he was working away again and didn't suggest another time. He still texted after but then a few days passed and unusually he didn't message. So I messaged him just a friendly message and he responded but I didn't think he sounded enthusiastic anymore and the conversation didn't continue like it normally does.

So I left it...I know he is actually working away and he has some stress in his life right now. But I still feel like he could make time to reach out.

He seemed like a really genuine nice guy and I can't work out why it's like he has now changed towards me? I don't know what else to do. Did I do something wrong? Or am I overthinking, I don't know? 😞

[missmarple]

Correct me if I'm wrong but you were just dating, right? I mean, had he expressed any interest in turning dating into a relationship?

[Man with Dog]

I met a lovely guy through friends about 6 weeks ago. He has a really busy job and lives quite a way away but after we met he started messaging me and seemed really keen to get to know me. He seemed like he really wanted to see me and we met up a few weekends in a row, went out for dinner and drinks etc. We ended up sleeping together the last time....I felt a little awkward about it the next day but he seemed fine but as I left he said he wasn't sure when he'd be free next as he was away working the next few weekends..when I got home he was messaging to make sure I got home ok, and although he was working away he would still message me throughout the day, sending photos of random stuff and generally making conversation.after a week or so of this I suggested meeting again as I had some days off but he said he was working away again and didn't suggest another time. He still texted after but then a few days passed and unusually he didn't message. So I messaged him just a friendly message and he responded but I didn't think he sounded enthusiastic anymore and the conversation didn't continue like it normally does.

So I left it...I know he is actually working away and he has some stress in his life right now. But I still feel like he could make time to reach out.

He seemed like a really genuine nice guy and I can't work out why it's like he has now changed towards me? I don't know what else to do. Did I do something wrong? Or am I overthinking, I don't know?

 

Honest: we can only speculate. He COULD be losing interest or he could be really busy. You might not be exclusive to him. Maybe just ask if he's OK.

[bulletproof]

He seemed like a really genuine nice guy and I can't work out why it's like he has now changed towards me? I don't know what else to do. Did I do something wrong? Or am I overthinking, I don't know? 😞

 

You'll probably get answers that are similar to the last thread about this. Nobody here can tell if he's into you or not, but all you can do is live your life and not worry about what he's doing/thinking. Work on the insecurities and self-confidence issues you mentioned in your last thread. And going forward, wait until you're sure about the relationship before you sleep with someone. It's a lot easier on the psyche.

[Movingforward3]

He sounds like he is just busy. Be casual and stay in contact or backoff if you not happy with that.

[Loriana]

Well the good thing here is that after you slept together he didn't stop texting you so if he just wanted a one night stand he would have stopped contacting you.

 

He seems just generally busy, don't think too much into it, focus on you and your own life instead of worrying so much about whether he is really into you or not.

 

If he likes you he will get back to you and arrange another date.

[Dottieflanogon]

Its hard to tell if he lost interest or if he's just truly busy .just pull back a bit( Stop texting and contacting him) and mirror his behaviour .Time will tell