Confused and dont know what to do ?.

[needsomehelp56]

Ok there is a little bit of background to this.

 

There nearly 3 years ago a girl started to work with me in my job and she was fantastic and we got on really well and i liked her quite a lot and would have done anything to be able to go out with her but at the time she had a boyfriend. So i stayed away in that end and never done anything. But about a year of working with each other her boyfriend started to work there and he could tell right away with both of us as the flirting and the messing around with each other was on couples lvs. So he made her leave and he also did. I have not spoke to her for nearly a year and 1/2 afterwords.

 

So every now and then we all do our facebook creep and i seen she was single on her facebook page and i wonted to message her but i never did. So as i am on a online dateing site there one day i seen her on it and the 1st thing i done was message her and we talked for a little bit and feelings came back at my end for her. So i told her outright that i was crazy about her when i worked with her and i wonted to tell her for so long but i never done anything as you had a boyfriend and she said to me she had the idea i was and she also had feelings for me at her end and that she fancied me. So i asked her out and she said yes and we agreed on everything but she got cold feet the last min and pulled out and she told me its because she is really nerves and afard to get hurt and to trust someone again after her ex. So i ended up not speaking for another 6 weeks.

 

But heres me thinking a bit crazy now in work last week i had a clairvoyant in on the tables and she set down and gave me a reading for free and she got loads of stuff right about me that i found is crazy as i dont believe in any kind of stuff like this. But she told with girls the girl i wont is there for me both of yous are slightly afard of moveing to the next step to each other thanks to your past history but if you dont make a effort with this girl you will end up regracting it later in life as you are pretty much perfect for each other.

 

Then i met up with a different girl there yesterday from the dating site and it went ok no major feelings but she brought up the girl who i used to works with name and it brought a light to my face and i smiled. So when i got home last night and i was looking at my phone for nearly 2 hours to see will i message her again the girl that i like ?. So i ended up messaging her and asking her about her cold feet and telling her that i am still crazy about her. She told me she is still so nerves about meeting me again and so on.

 

I am just slightly stuck at what to do her as i would still do anything to give it a go with her as i know in my hart i would be the perfect boyfriend for her and will be there to look after her and so on. But as she is afard to move to the next lv i dont know what to do ?. I messaged her today to see would she like to talk on the phone or a skype call this evening and see can we break the ice there ?. Was that i good idea ?. Or how can i get this to the next stage as i do know she has feelings for me as well.

[DoF]

Think about it....DEEPLY.

 

A girl that engages into inappropriate behavior with opposite sex WHILE in a relationship. Why do you think her boyfriend broke up, cause she is a cheater (most likely).

 

Do you REALLY think she won't do that to YOU?

 

Stay away from this person, and for god sakes STOP getting involved at a place of work with people.....it's not worth your job!

 

I would also look in the mirror. What made you flirt etc with a girl that has a boyfriend? That's disturbing....

[Loriana]

Okay I see a red flag here...this girl is on a dating site, but she says she isn't ready to move on yet. This might be me being suspicious, but why would you go on a dating site if you're not ready to date and to meet new people?

 

I feel like that's her way of letting you down gently.

 

Has she said whether she is going to Skype with you or not?

[needsomehelp56]

Have a update now we are going to talk on the phone tomorrow evening and see from there.

 

Well myself i had a girlfirend and i used to flirt with girls on the tables in work all the time as i am after tips. He cheated on her. Its my family business so i wont lose the job . What made me flirt was that she was perfect and sometimes you just dont know who is going to walk into your life and who you are going to end up falling for. For it to stay there for years is telling you it might be worth takeing the risk for happyness at the end of it.

 

Like there is loads more to this as well as when she left she tought i hated her for leaving but i didn't at all. But hopefully now a phone call will see where both of us stand and where our intrasts are at this time. As if it ends good i could have a date if bad notting at all.