No Contact Rule

[Onelovex3]

I would like to get back together with my ex.. It's long distance but he's coming home in December for break. I broke up with him because I thought he wanted me to do so. His actions pointed to that.. But he said that's not what he wanted. Now I want to win him back. I contacted him 2 weeks after our breakup.. We discussed the breakup. The conversation ended neutrally. Wasn't bad at all. Should I contact him again in 2 weeks? I want to stay relevant.. I'm afraid no contact will do the opposite of help me get him back. We dated for 3 1/2 months.

[Movingforward3]

If you only dated for 3 1/2 months that isn't very long. You have almost been apart for 1/3rd of the time. I know you want a path back. I would simply try to contact him when he is back in town and have a good conversation and ask him to lunch. Keep it light and fun. See where it leads. Do not talk about your relationship, unless he brings it up. I wish you luck!

[Onelovex3]

So you think I shouldn't contact him at all until then? That's about 1 1/2 months. I don't want him to forget about me. He's a very busy man..

[kbbcoop77]

No contact is for healing it has zero to do with getting someone back. You dumped him so ask him whenever you want to if he wants to try again. If he says no, that's his choice. Getting dumped sucks. He may not want to risk it again and that's his perogative

[Onelovex3]

He said he doesn't know.. & that he'd have to see me again. But when I asked if he wanted to see me again he said he doesn't know again (2 weeks after our breakup).. With time do you think he will consider it? Should I try to rebuild with him? Talk to him? I don't wanna annoy him by texting him too close to the last time we talked but I don't wanna wait to long as I want to stay relevant. How long should I wait to text him again?

[greta96]

It is impossible to make a guy who is clearly not interested in you, interested. It just doesn't work that way. No contact is not meant to bring an ex back, it's designed to help you move away from him. You can contact him whenever you wish, if he "doesn't know" if he wants to be with you or not, it means he doesn't want to be with you period.

[Birdie]

As per your last post, you thought he wanted you to break up with him by him calling you names, not talking to you for multiple days and calling other girls babe?

 

So what will have changed? Were you really happy when he was acting like this? What makes you think it'll be any different.

 

Respect yourself and you'll attract decent guys, this guy showed you very little respect and you're fawning over him....

[Dottieflanogon]

Stick to the NC and work on yourself and trying to heal... so you will be available to meet a guy who will treat you with respect. Try not to be waiting for him or hoping for a reconciliation, you deserve better.