Relationship shortly after meeting him?

[Katherine9]

I know there is a similar thread on here already, about a guy wanting a relationship too fast. But I feel like I need to explain the situation I am in a bit more in detail, I feel a bit confused tbh.

 

So I met this guy online a few weeks ago. We went on a date and it was nice. The first thing that made me a bit cautious was the fact that he was 10 years older than on his profile. He said he felt a bit worried about women not finding him interesting because he's still a student and not financially settled yet. I understood why he did it, but because of this and other facts like most of his relationships were rather short, I didn't feel optimistic about meeting him again. We kept in touch here and there and one day he finally dropped it, that he really liked me but is not sure if I'm just playing etc. So we decided to meet up and talk about it. He said he'd really like to be with me, that he noticed I was still on the site but he didn't go on it anymore because he met me. I felt excited at first, as I previously thought he wasnt really interested. So he was making it clear he wants us to be exclusive. After the next time we met he texted me that he thinks he loves me etc but then in person he never said it. Since then we met a few more times, but I feel he doesn't put a lot of effort into it in between, for example he never calls, sometimes texts very sporadically...Mentioned sex a few times as well. Which is not a disaster, but what does it say about his intentions?

 

It all just seems very strange. Why would a guy so quickly want to get you into a relationship,without knowing you properly, just so he won't make a lot of effort in the end?I don't feel like in a relationship, I don't feel pursued and I feel like I am just waisting my time somehow. What should I do, talk to him about it?

[j.man]

I don't know what's more concerning... the fact he said he loved you after the first date or the fact you're upset he might not actually love you after one date.

[HeartGoesOn]

Keep in mind that anything that starts this quickly, has a tendency to fizzle out just as fast. I think you already know the answer...

[notalady]

Lying about his age is a deal breaker right off the bat, for me and a lot of people at least. What does that say about his honesty (or lack thereof) when he's already lying before meeting you? I don't care what's the excuse (and there is always one).

 

How can he "really liked you", he's met you once, I'm guessing for a few hours max. And wanting to be exclusive after one meet is way too fast. He wants to lock this down as he knows you are still otherwise available to be snatched up (noticing you are still online). He wants to get rid of the competition and you made it easy (by agreeing).

 

And saying he loves you, wow hold your horses.

 

Mentioning sex, so early on, also red flag, very questionable intentions.

 

Red flags flying left right centre.

 

Yes you're wasting your time. Move on. Next time learn to listen to your instincts, it feels strange because there are simply too many things wrong with this guy.

[kamurj]

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