So confused

[Skater97]

About two years ago I meet a couple boys with my friend and I really liked one of them and we got on really well. Me and my friend fell out and I didn't see them for a couple years. We kept in contact but one day out of the blue he seems more interested and was up for meeting. We spoke for about a month. Then his GIRLFRIEND followed me on Instagram. I confronted him and he made me feel like he was only messaging me as a friend. So I thought I had it all wrong and stupidly agreed to still meet. He text me the night before to say that they had split. Well the next day when he came to mine we had sex. We started seeing for two months. Going for meals and going to the movies. But he constantly liked other girls pictures and I wasn't allowed on his phone and there was one girl who always commented on his pictures who he promised me he wasn't talking to. We started going out but after 2 weeks he dumped me and said he didn't feel the same. 2 months later he gets back in contact and admits that he had been talking to that girl. He has now asked to meet and yes stupid me has agreed. It's tomorrow and I keep thinking he might have changed but I don't know. I need advice. I don't want to be used for sex.

[DoF]

So the guy makes move on you, you see/sense it. Find out he has a girlfriend, he denies his approaches and you believe him?

 

Then (the cheater) gets dumped by his girl that figured him out and doesn't take time to heal/recover (which shoudl really tell you a lot about his intelligence levels and character) and calls you so he can bang you, and you proceed.

 

he goes off and does exactly what he was doing to his original girlfriend (which is to be expected) and even manages to convince you that you are not to see his cheating ways (on the phone)...and proceeds to lie to your face......and you actually believe him?

 

Then HE dumps YOU?

 

Now the other girl figured out he was a cheater and dumps him.....so he runs back to you, and you take him back again?

 

And now you are in denial and think he can change? And you also think that you haven't ALREADY been used for sex?

 

Of course you have and he is going to do it again, tomorrow, because YOU allow it and are completely blind.

 

Not smart sweat heart, not smart at all.

 

I suggest you stay away from opposite sex for some time and figure yourself out, cause clearly there is something wrong with you. You are in no shape to date or even engage with opposite sex. You need to study/read and research relationship and WORK ON YOURSELF. 5 love languages is a good start for any young person, I always recommend it.

[Helpexpressme]

Say no, because I think we both know he wants to come over for sex.

 

Well actually that's all he wants from you.

[Skater97]

I know it makes me sound so stupid but It was him that broke up with his girlfriend and he never met that other girl

[Helpexpressme]

He can tell you anything dosn't mean it's true.

[DoF]

I know it makes me sound so stupid but It was him that broke up with his girlfriend and he never met that other girl

 

So his ex was as ignorant and blind as you.

 

It makes it sound stupid cause it is stupid. Don't get offended and don't worry, at your age it's completely normal.

 

Just RECOGNIZE it all and learn from it. That's the best thing you can do. Seems like you were recognizing it, but your hope/heart thinking took over.

 

Don't EVER ignore you intuition. And ALWAYS think with your brain, not your heart....or hope....those are dangerous and it's exactly what players/dogs exploit.

 

 

[Willywagtail]

If you don't want to be used for sex, then don't meet up with him.

 

He's a cheater and a liar and he doesn't deserve your time of day.

[becsters]

blow him off. dont show up and dont message him back. he sounds like a scumbag to me!

[HeartGoesOn]

He can't "use you for sex" without your permission. As long as you understand that we set the standards for how others treat us, this is all on you.