BeHeard Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 I'm already putting things in place to keep myself occupied. Unfortunately, I do not have a good relationship with my family, so I decided to just try to make things extra special for my daughter and for us to do special things together. It will be hard however when her father has her for Christmas, and my XBF (who lives minutes away and I know also stays home on Holidays) is a phone call away. I asked my therapist today if I could start weaning off my meds and she said "Let's wait after the Holidays....". Who else has difficulties not being depressed and tempted to break NC? I keep reminding myself how empowered I'll feel after January 1 if I get through it. Anyone care to share feelings and/or how you plan to get through it?
JA0371 Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 I ill do the same...plan to just be busy as possible. Holidays are always extra hard. Just keep posting on here too....
kbbcoop77 Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Is this the first holidays since the split from your xbf? Last year was my first without my ex wife after 24 years together but I made it but it was HARD. This year I hope she falls off a bridge so it'll be easier lol, first year is the hardest.
mjoao93 Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Well me and my guy broke up November 2, so if I make it to January 1 without contacting him I will be extremely proud.
Doc Blaze Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 I wont break NC but it will be tough. I actually changed my holiday plans so I could be with my gf and her family on Christmas while my family goes away for x mas and now we broke up. So now im screwed and will be spending x mas by myself. I think a few friends might stop by and hang out with me though.
turnbaktime Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Well the holidays always get to me since my breakup so not looking forward to them. I usually hide behind working but this time around I'm wo' nt be working this Thanksgiving and Christmas. However the new year is a different story because I will be starting classes in school so that's a motivation for me and a good distraction so all i have to do is to get through the rest of this year and then only good things. Great post.
surfdiva Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Yes! Me, I'm absolutely dreading the Holiday's this year! My ex just moved out two weeks ago, I normally would spend the Holiday's with his family but for obvious reasons I'm not. My mom called to tell me "it would make your sister uncomfortable if you came for Christmas". My son will be with his dad this year, so I'll literally be sitting at home alone. I don't want to be "that" person that everyone feels sorry for and that's the only reason I would have been invited, I'm just wishing it was January 1st already!
emptyeffort Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 she broke up a month ago. having 1 week of free time from university right now and drove back to my fam for that.thinking of her all day every day. im trying to have the least possible contact. id love to talk to her its just that i dont even know what to say. we were both always very honest and we spoke about literally everything. means: if i chat her up it will end in us talking about our feelings.. mainly how devestated i feel. how sorry she is. how she still "loves" me but not in a romantical way. how we both dont wanna lose each other.. apart from losing my gf its the worst that i lost my best friend and the most important person in my life. its kinda sad i have noone to talk to anymore. dont even keep my phone with me anymore since we broke up. wish i could just be friends with her.
youngman23 Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 I reckon i will be ok, my family always have great christmases, my ex on the other hand will struggle, her family hate it and she has always said the 3 we had together with my family where the best
Recommended Posts
Archived
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.