What its like to re-date somebody emotionally unavailable/scared of commitment

[Yeahyayea88]

I know this woman is in love with me... Maybe not madly but thats only because shes so scared to commit.. Who knows why... She doesnt even know why herself.. Shes afraid to talk, open up, show the slightest bit of emotion or as i percieve her to see it.. Weakness.. I love her deeply even after how rollercoaster-ish our relationship has been.. From in a relationship to not even talking to casual dating and sex.. but now It tends to leave me often feeling like im not good enough, that i did something wrong, or even worse, im showing too much emotion.. When shes hot and on its like nothing has and could never compare to what we have but when shes cold and shes off its leaving me confused and slightly insecure... Im at a stand still and emotionally ive gotten myself in quite the pickle.. What do i do..? Continue what we got going in hopes she will come around and the person who shined through in the very beginning will re appear or atleast somebody better.. End things and move forward with my life before more grief is ridden.. I feel it deep in my heart that she is the one for me.. But more and more i feel like im just not the one for her.. And coming to accept that, is getting easier and easier by the day...

 

Signed,

 

a confused old soul

[bulletproof]

End things and move forward with my life before more grief is ridden..

 

This sounds about right.

Ask yourself why you're so attracted to someone who is this unavailable to you. Do you enjoy the drama? Also, I would be very wary of someone touting herself as "scared to commit." She may just be hesitant to commit to you.

[Yeahyayea88]

This sounds about right.

Ask yourself why you're so attracted to someone who is this unavailable to you. Do you enjoy the drama? Also, I would be very wary of someone touting herself as "scared to commit." She may just be hesitant to commit to you.

 

I ended things and cut her off last night.. Its bittersweet and im not gonna lie and say it doesnt hurt but most of all i feel relieved and true to myself... Thank you fir the advice! I really appreciate it!