Aplus Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 Greetings . ( Before I start , sorry for my bad english ! ) After a 3 years old reationship me and my ex girlfriend had a fight and we didnt talk to eachother for a month . After a month someone told me that she has a new boyfriend , First i wasnt really sad , then i decieded to talk to her and tell her that i sill love her . So i tried to call her , send her msg and etc but she blocked me from everywhere . After alot of try she answred me and told me that she dont love me anymore , and the new guy is more better than me and he ( the new guy ) can give her more love than me . so i started no contact project to take her back . after 1 month no concat i decided to dont contact her cuz i knew she was still with that guy . it feels so bad , im sure all of you know that , specialy when there is a new guy in the story . I fought with my feelings , i said to myself let her be happy with her new bf , i was in a lot of pain . After a while someone told me that she is not fine and happy with new guy and she is depressed , but i wasnt sure what should i do . so i didnt contact her again , i said " if she wants me , she will call me " . 5 months after break up i strated a new realtionship with a girl that i liked , i was happy during that new realtionship but all of a sudden she left me after 2 weeks . ( She said i didnt move on from my past realtionship and i want to be with my ex again ). i wanted her even more than my other ex . but ... Its like 10 months after my first breakup and i dont feel like really good . i still think about both of them , i feel bad about my life . im mean what is life ? ( forget a bugatti ) . EVERY TIME I GET TO FINISH I SEE MYSLEF IN START . IM STUCK .
Movingforward3 Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 Perhaps, you simply need to focus on you. Work on making you better without a relationship. Don't date for at least 6 months. Be single, free, and happy. This will give you time to heal and be better.
Aplus Posted November 1, 2015 Author Posted November 1, 2015 Perhaps, you simply need to focus on you. Work on making you better without a relationship. Don't date for at least 6 months. Be single, free, and happy. This will give you time to heal and be better. I am focusing on myslef sir . I'm going to gym everyday and etc , i just want my frist ex back , I want to talk to her and tell her how much i love her , and i want to be with her , but there is a voice in my head that tells me "don't do it . she is happy without you and she don't want you anymore ." but deep down , i know that she still has feelings for me . i can't let her go , i want to shoot my last bullet and try one more time , but i don't know how
kbbcoop77 Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 ""but deep down , i know that she still has feelings for me . "" The truth is she doesn't. She's done. You have to move on. If she wanted to be with you she would be with you.
LyEd20 Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 You said it yourself, you still want to be with your first ex. That's the main reason why your 2nd gf left you right? She said it herself. As the old saying says, money can't buy yo happiness. You need to completely let go of your 1st gf, not for you to find more gf, but to make yourself happy and contented. Make yourself happy by moving on and letting go. Sort it out from the inside. ☺
Aplus Posted November 1, 2015 Author Posted November 1, 2015 I really want to move on , but i don't know how ! I think i can't find anyone like them . ( my exes ) The thing is i didnt know that i love her this much when we were together , I thought i just want here for sex and stuff . I thought I'm able to leave her anytime . But after she told me " i don't love you anymore " I died .
dreamyjane Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 Some people don´t know what they have until it´s gone. I think you have to work on yourself, you need to be more mature. Learn things on your own without being in relationship. Just my feelings, don´t take it too personally, but when you wanted your ex only for "sex and stuff" and you started to truly want her after she told you, she doesn´t love you anymore. It´s confusing. Maybe your attitude gave your ex feeling, that you don´t truly love her. We are people, we feel when is something wrong. You can change only yourself, then will change everyhing around you. Anyway, you started to want your second ex after she left you. Is it really about love? Maybe you just don´t know how to be on your own. You will see, it will get better. Work on yourself and be alone at least 6 months. Cross fingers! You can do it!
Aplus Posted November 1, 2015 Author Posted November 1, 2015 Some people don´t know what they have until it´s gone. I think you have to work on yourself, you need to be more mature. Learn things on your own without being in relationship. Just my feelings, don´t take it too personally, but when you wanted your ex only for "sex and stuff" and you started to truly want her after she told you, she doesn´t love you anymore. It´s confusing. Maybe your attitude gave your ex feeling, that you don´t truly love her. We are people, we feel when is something wrong. You can change only yourself, then will change everyhing around you. Anyway, you started to want your second ex after she left you. Is it really about love? Maybe you just don´t know how to be on your own. You will see, it will get better. Work on yourself and be alone at least 6 months. Cross fingers! You can do it! Thank you Jane . I was 16 years old when i was with her , Now im almost 20 . Maybe i'm just a kid who can't understand what is love , maybe i don't deserve love cuz all I care about is " sex " . But i did alot for her , i did ALOT . she just forget me like it's nothing , after 3 days of our fight she jumped into a new realtionship , but i couldnt . i still loved her , i wanted her more than anything . I'm alone for like 4.5 months . I'm feeling better by time . Time is healing me . But as i said when i want to be free from that pain and agony i just see myself in start . that's really sucks . Thanks to dear Adele !
dreamyjane Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 No, you deserve love. There isn´t any person on this world who doesn´t deserve love. You see? I guess, she couldn´t handle pain after BU on her own. When people start to date rigth after BU, they will be only more mess up. I know, it´s really hard. We have days when we feel up and down. Just stay strong. Easier said than done. Continue your healing process and then you´ll be stronger, happier person Focus on this positive target and don´t feel disappointed of yourself, when you have bad days! How it came then it will leave (By "it" I mean bad feeling). So come to the light side It can be even harder after 4,5 months, because you realised, that you can´t hope to have your ex back in your life. It will get better! Don´t worry!
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