moving away so we're breaking up. .

[Kalika19]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months we have had a rocky relationship I have broken up with him so many times I have lost track always when I'm intoxicated but we always ended up getting back together.

 

We see each other about 5-6days a week I sleep over at his apartment several times a week. I have cut back drinking and I started going to councelling for my drinking because I realized if I didn't do something I would lose him. I'm 25 so is he ..he bought an apartment suite a few months ago and my family moved about 5 hrs away so I moved in with a friend and her family temporarily.

 

Since the beginning of the relationship we both said we would never do long distance. My parent's had planned to move for a long time and my boyfriend was skeptical about getting involved with me because he was afraid I might move one day too, to go live them.

 

Anyways a few days ago my parents offered me to move into their brand new house in the basement suite. I'm not financially stable on my own yet so I don't have the money to pay rent to stay here anymore and my friend that I'm living with wanted me to start looking for a place to move in to because I was just staying with her temporarily.

 

So I don't really have a choice I have to move right now I'm leaving in a couple of weeks. When I told my bf he started crying and was very upset and was like I knew this would happen. Since then he has perked up and we've talked about breaking up just before I leave. But I'm wondering if that will make it harder and if I should start separating myself now? We both said we see a future for us we both hope this is just temporarily.

 

My friend told said to mi shouldn't be upset because if he really wanted me to stay he would offer me to move in with him. Which is true but I know he knows I'm not financially stable and we're so rocky I can see how he may be thinking. Before I moved in with my friend months ago I was originally suppose to move in with him but because we kept fighting etc he didn't think it was a good idea. I don't want to break up I don't know what to do... my family is so excited for me to move in with them. I feel so sad right now going through this breakup slowly..

[Ms Darcy]

My friend told said to mi shouldn't be upset because if he really wanted me to stay he would offer me to move in with him. Which is true but I know he knows I'm not financially stable and we're so rocky I can see how he may be thinking.

 

Moving in with him would be a horrible idea. You don't just play house because you are not financially stable. That's ridiculous. Moving in is a serious thing and you would need a solid relationship and financially stability on both parts for it to even be on the table. So, your friend is really steering you wrong.

 

This relationship just isn't going anywhere. The constant break-ups are a sign of incompatibility and this upcoming break up is a real blessing. I'd suggest breaking it off sooner rather than later. No need to wait for the inevitable.