Am i to blame for his metal problems?

[doverf5ve]

My little bro is 30 years, we all think he is aggressive and it does not help that he has learning difficulties. He was definitely a slower learner and the academically the poorest out of all the siblings. He has outbursts at my mum, is moody and depressed. He is repetitive in arguments and shouts when he can not get a point accross. He didn't finish university and was accused of plagiarism. He's been on the dole for years, found a job this year that pays crap less than min wage his company told him to set up as a limited company. Its a low paid sales job and outgoings to the accountant are way more than what he earns a day. We are frustrated and he seems to think being on the dole is better.

 

I am beginning to think is this my thought? When we i was 4 i remember throwing a rice bowl on his head (i really can't remember if it was plastic, there was no shattered glass) my mum and dad hit me on the head for doing that. What if i caused his learning disabilities? The hit could have had an impact on his brain. I would be responsible for the way he has turned out. We are trying to help him improve his life but he was on the dole for over 8 years and is not skilled in anything...

[Movingforward3]

I think you are doing more damage to him by giving him money and not making him make it on his own. Why make it when you know brother and family will bail you out? We all have issues and things that make it hard for us to be successful. That's what being an adult and a man is all about. Accepting that and doing what you have to do to succeed.

You have to let him fail. Let him be a man. Let him make those choices, good and bad.

[Liefde]

No I don't think you are to blame he sounds bipolar. Was there ever a mental evaluation done on him.

[Snny]

Learning disabilities typically result from genetics or prenatal issues. Traumatic Brain Injury is much more severe like from a car accident.

[Seraphim]

Being critical and negative won't help anybody with disabilities or developmental disability. And that is what disability payments are for to level the playing field for people who cannot work.

 

Try understanding his disabilities instead.

[Man with Dog]

No, throwing a rice bowl would not cause learning difficulties. I know more about learning difficulties than I would like to say but I'm convinced they are caused by genetics and hereditary factors. The problem in the UK is that there's little help for adults. I don't know if there's any self help groups where you are. I found a lot of useful information from one in the UK online. They would also help your mum and you.