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[EmmaWhite]

Hey guys! So, i met this girl this year and we became close friends, spending most of our time together, studying together and hanging out... But today she told me that she is in love with me; i pretnded that i haven't heard her but i heard her saying it several times that she is falling so deep for me!!!!!! Im a straight girl, never had any attraction or anything towards girls, but this one is giving butterflies everytime i see her. I don't want to ruin our friendship or hurt her. Im planning to talk to her as soon as she gets home this Monday. Tell me how to put up the words pleaaaase.

Thank you.

[Dottieflanogon]

Let me just say, first of all, that this stuff happens all the time, and it can't be helped. Lesbians can fall in love with straight girls just like straight girls can fall in love with gay guys. Love is strange and very hard to control.If your friend really does understand that you are straight and that you do not want to have a close relationship her, then she should be able to move on too.To me, it seems like since you are her best friend, she see's what she wants in you.

 

I'm sure you're a really nice person and don't want her out of ur life .You just have to be honest with her .Tell her that I’m really flattered, and know it probably took a lot of courage to divulge your feelings for me but I identify as straight and only see myself with guys. You deserve a girlfriend who is super into you. But, as for me, I’m straight, so I can’t be that girl for you.Be respectful, be honest, and be clear. I know rejecting someone is hard, but you’ve got this.

 

 

If I was in your shoes, I would be concerned that by continuing to be friends with that person, whether they were same or opposite sex, I would feel like I might be leading them on and giving them false hope. If its not awkward after the fact, carry on being friends. If it does become difficult for both you then its best to part ways. Good luck

[dave_1966]

I have a gay male friend who I feel has had a crush on me for years, he has never said anything to me but I feel it's been quite apparent. You just have to set boundaries, I did this when he came out by telling him that if I was gay I would choose someone better looking than him and laughed it off. As a male friend, he's just someone who I want to meet for a pint with and put the world to rights. As long as he realises that's as far as it goes I'm cool, and our shared experience of studying together is a lot to throw away over something as trivial as sexual preferences.