mariners2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 So I work with a girl who I thought disliked me or at least was uncomfortable around me. Whenever we passed by each other in the hallway, she would immediately look at the wall or down at the floor. Then one day I caught her looking at me as I was driving away in the parking lot after work in my rear view mirror. Not much by itself, but it caught my attention. In the month that followed she sat at my table (each table seats 2 people) in the break room during lunch both times that we happened to be in there at the same time. It's a small break room with only 5 tables, but still, curious behavior for someone I thought disliked me. But she didn't say a word to me, so I don't know ... what do you guys think? She seems introverted, if that helps.
Onigirilove Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 So I work with a girl who I thought disliked me or at least was uncomfortable around me. Whenever we passed by each other in the hallway, she would immediately look at the wall or down at the floor. Then one day I caught her looking at me as I was driving away in the parking lot after work in my rear view mirror. Not much by itself, but it caught my attention. In the month that followed she sat at my table (each table seats 2 people) in the break room during lunch both times that we happened to be in there at the same time. It's a small break room with only 5 tables, but still, curious behavior for someone I thought disliked me. But she didn't say a word to me, so I don't know ... what do you guys think? She seems introverted, if that helps. I think there could be a few explanations for her behavior based off of the bit of information provided here. First, maybe she is just like you said shy and introverted, not in a rude way but just dosent know you well, and may like to know you better but dosent know how to approach you. Secondly, she could possibly be trying to subtly drop small hints of developing feelings for you. Thirdly, she may want to talk to you about something, or just wants to get to know you better as a person. These are a few possibilities I have considered, but there are bound to be more. If you could provide a bit more detail and such I could probably think of more possibilities if you'd like. For sure though she does sound quite shy. If you are curious maybe you should try to strike a simple conversation with her and get to know her a bit better (if you haven't already of course). If you get to know her better then maybe you can get an answer on why she is behaving that way. Best luck in finding why she is acting that way.
j.man Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 I think you're reading way too much into way too little. Unless you're in 5th grade, the whole "looking at the ground while I walk by" thing doesn't hold enough water worth carrying. She's also a co-worker. Consider the countless other fish in the sea.
Capricorn3 Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 I think you're reading way too much into way too little. Unless you're in 5th grade, the whole "looking at the ground while I walk by" thing doesn't hold enough water worth carrying.. I agree. She also hasn't said a word to you all this time, so I think it is safe to say she's not very interested anyway. I don't see anything confusing here at all.
Silverbirch Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 I think she likes you. Well, I would never sit with someone in the lunch room like that if I didn't like them. You should break the ice with her.
Andrina Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Most new relationships don't even work out, so if you dated her and it didn't work out, it'd be very awkward to see each other at work. If you want a gf and your dating pool has dried up, try meetups.com. If you haven't heard of it, go the site, put in your geographic location, and all kinds of activity groups in your area will pop up, some geared for singles. Good luck.
MC26 Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 It's so hard to tell, how about you show some signs to her if you are interested? Personal experience: I like a guy at my workplace and he is such a nice guy always helping me out. But I can't really show or really want to show it because we both work at the same place. Just in case if thing doesn't work out it will be so awkward to see each other everyday. So, I have always hided my feeling and sometimes i don't want to look face to face with him. So, if you are interested in her, then why not try to make small move like asking her out for lunch/dinner? unless you are afraid of that awkward feeling too if thing not going well. or maybe just be a closer friend to her now? Good luck.
mariners2015 Posted November 1, 2015 Author Posted November 1, 2015 Onigirilove and MC26, thank you for the respectful, well-thought out responses. I managed to strike up a conversation with her the day before Halloween and long story short, we had a great time last night!
Sportster2005 Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 Onigirilove and MC26, thank you for the respectful, well-thought out responses. I managed to strike up a conversation with her the day before Halloween and long story short, we had a great time last night! Advice you disagree with is also respectful an well thought out.
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