Questioning feelings

[Twistedheart99]

Hi, I've never posted here before but have read a few threads here when I've googled questions. It seems like a better place to get an opinion than from the people I know.

I have been with my boyfriend for a little more than 2 years, he is 10 years older and in the divorce process, which I know is always a red flag but there are legit legal issues because they came from another country. Anyway things have been very up and down this past year between us. He'll say hurtful things as will I and then we say we're better off alone then we make up 10 min later. He recently went to back to his home for 3 weeks to see his family. I don't blame him because it's been 10 years but he never asked if I'd like to go for a week and just expected me to cover his job. We both do the same work and are considered self employed. I of course did the extra work but am exhausted and all he tells me is how great he feels and how he needed that. He said now he's ready to do things right with me and with work again. At first I was very stressed and upset but now I'm used to it and have also met a guy that is nice and attractive. It's giving me thoughts to leave my boyfriend but I know the grass always looks greener on the other side. I've become almost resentful of my boyfriend from the stress and he never once asked how I was doing the whole trip unless I contacted him first. Is my attraction to the new guy just a sign that I'm with the wrong one? Has my boyfriend just been stringing me along so he's not alone if now he's ready to "do things right?"

[mhowe]

If all it takes to find someone new when your boyfriend is away is 3 weeks, you are with the wrong guy.

 

Also, I dated someone who was in the process of an into divorce. It took 5 years. So, I wouldn't be hanging my hat on that.

[overthemoon86]

You have already met someone else? And he is still going through divorce proceedings and you have been in a relationship for 2 years?? I am confused.