To Quote Childish Gambino: "Are we dating? Are we ing? Are we best friends?

[MattJ67]

Little Background Info: I'm a 17 year old Junior in High School, I'm intelligent, most people think I'm funny (I think??), and I'm generally liked by most people (once again, I think??). In no shape way or form am I saying I'm some ultra popular heart-breaker, because I'm not, but I know people. I'm 6 foot 3, 245.

Onto the situation: There is this girl whom for privacy's sake will be going by Tina. I've known Tina for roughly 5 years, but we've only been friends for 4 of those years. During our Freshman year I confessed my feelings for her, much to my dismay, she turned me down. When it comes to having crushes, I've only ever really had two, and I've been crushing on her for the better part of the last 4 years. At the end of last school year, I asked her out to a movie and she said yes. I'm TERRIBLE at reading signs, and I decided to interpret this as if though she is into me. So the following day, I got her flowers for her birthday and made a fool of myself. We didn't really talk much over the summer, and I found out that much to my dismay, she was accepted into a local college via dual-enrollment, so we never get to see each other at school any more. But something has happened recently. We've went out with each other every weekend for the last 2 months. We've gone to movies, haunted houses, and just random restaurants for fun. She actually took me to Red Lobster for my birthday, and I don't think you pay $50 for someone if you don't feel anything. We've hugged, held hands, all that fun stuff, but I'm still not man enough to kiss her. The biggest issue is, she has a boyfriend once again. This guy is marginally older than her like 12 years older, and he lives a few states over. She never talks to him while we're out, and will actually ignore him if he calls or texts her. I'm not sure how to feel about this whole situation, I'm not sure if she's into me, if we're just friends, I honestly have no idea. Any and all help is appreciated.

[mhowe]

Twelve years is not marginally older when you are talking an 18 year old.

 

You guys are buddies. She hangs out with you, treated you for your birthday. She has a cyber boyfriend and she is getting ready for college. Since you haven't tried to kiss her, she thinks you are friends. And guess what, you are.

 

You aren't dating unless BOTH people know it's a date.

[SooSad33]

12 yrs older? Ick

 

I say she's dependent on you for some 'emotional' support since her bf is states away?

She should NOT be holding your hand, etc IF she is involved with someone else. ( would you like that going on if you were with that person?).

 

Might be best to back off a bit and remain in the 'friend zone'..knowing she is dating someone else.