Jsemedo Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 So my boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months and we are sexually active. Our sex life is great and I never complain but recently something happened that left me sad and embarrassed. I was on period so we couldn't do anything so we just kissed each other and with time it got more intense. Eventually I felt him getting more and more aroused so I put my hands down his pants. When I did he pushed away a bit and I didn't know what to do. So I asked him if I should stop and he responded with "it's up to you". I rejected and said it was up to him and so he said "yeah sure" after that we just stopped altogether and laid different sides of the bed. We didn't speak and we both could feel the tension between us. Usually we both love to touch each other and be near to each other. He never can keep his hands off me and is always finding some way for me to touch him as well so I was completely taken by surprise when this happened. It has made me come to think that maybe he isn't interested of physically attracted to me anymore. I'm scared because I really do love him and want to stay with him but I just don't feel that intimacy and attraction anymore. I don't know what to do.
Waraqqa Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 Have you just asked him WHY he pushed your hands away?.. I think it would be ok to ask gently, "Look, have I done smth wrong? You seemed to push me away when I tried to touch you." In a gentle way, not confrontational or anything. It could just be a mutual misunderstanding when both people got embarrassed for a different reason.
Jsemedo Posted October 25, 2015 Author Posted October 25, 2015 He said it in a tone that I'm scared to ask him. He gets mad when I bring up anything sexual regarding him. We've just recently had a big argument and I don't want to mess things up again. I guess I'm just scared.
Hollyj Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Ask him. It is always bewildering that one can have sex with another, yet not ask a simple question.
Hollyj Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 He said it in a tone that I'm scared to ask him. He gets mad when I bring up anything sexual regarding him. We've just recently had a big argument and I don't want to mess things up again. I guess I'm just scared. If that's the case, then you have bigger problems on your hands. I reassess your situation.
Hollyj Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 You cannot have a relationship without communication.
SooSad33 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 This was just once.. and maybe he did that, knowing you couldn't go further either.. as mentioned.. did you ask him why he did that? Communication is the key. So you understand each other.
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