question2015 Posted October 17, 2015 Share Posted October 17, 2015 A friend and I had a disagreement about 6 months ago and we no longer speak to each other. I said some insensitive comments during the disagreement and would like to apologize through a letter. This friendship "breakup" has really affected me and it is causing major emotional stress in my life because I miss my friend dearly and I don t have many others. However, I don't want to be friends again. But I feel apologizing would help me move on and help me stop obsessing over this situation. It's on my mind everyday. I realize by sending the letter, I probably won't get a response back but I'm ok with that. Would sending the letter be a lost cause if I don't want to be friends anymore anyway? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TMifune Posted October 17, 2015 Share Posted October 17, 2015 I think if you're truly remorseful and you have no ulterior motive, then it's fine to send an apology letter to someone that you feel you've wronged. If you're going to reject their friendship if your apology makes them want to communicate again, then sending the letter is kind of a mind job and I'd recommend you don't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Movingforward3 Posted October 17, 2015 Share Posted October 17, 2015 Perhaps you simply write a letter you never send. Make your own closure. Say a prayer. Light a candle. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melancholy123 Posted October 17, 2015 Share Posted October 17, 2015 I say write the letter then rip it up, dont send it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
toby17 Posted October 17, 2015 Share Posted October 17, 2015 I think if you send the letter, you'll feel worse. You'll expect a response even if you don't think you will and you'll wait for one and you'll still be thinking about it. I think you'd be better off writing a letter, as the others have suggested, and not sending it. In fact, instead of posting the letter, you might consider posting the draft letter on eNA (but remember to be anonymise the details) and getting feedback from the community. It might help you to stop accepting all/most of the blame for what happened. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Willywagtail Posted October 17, 2015 Share Posted October 17, 2015 I think you should send the letter, because at least then you'll feel as if you've apologised, even if you don't know what your friend's response will be. It's on your mind and it won't go away until you do something. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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