pinksag Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Hi, I've been involved with this guy a year. We started sleeping together in January. Official dates slowly stopped after that so I stopped sleeping with him. He asked why and I told him that I didn't want to be a booty call. He said he didn't have a problem taking me out but he never did. Its been months and although we still talked, all he wants me to do is come to his house which I will not do. A few weeks ago, I went out with my friends and he did not like that. He said I needed to come see him or stay home. I thought he was kidding but he wasn't. He began asking me where I was every time we talked after that. I went to a baby shower last week and told him what time I'd be home. He surprised me by calling as soon as I hit the door. He called on Sunday and I told him that I was going to ride motorcyles and would call him when I got home. I called him and got no answer. Tried again later and same thing. I haven't called back and neither has he. It feels like I'm being punished or maybe I've been dumped. What do you guys think about it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 You can't be dumped because you are not a couple. Seriously, what do you see him in? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Movingforward3 Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 That's a you won't sleep with me so I want answer you call.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 ^ Agreed...Spot on! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pinksag Posted October 9, 2015 Author Share Posted October 9, 2015 Hi I just dumped a friend for taking shots at my self esteem. It had been going on for over 10 years and that is not what a friend does. At All. Heck some people will even dump their dogs on the side of the road. Anyway the point is yes you can be dumped outside of romantic relationships. It happens every day. I'm just a woman who fell for a jerk. That too happens everyday. There is seriously no need to list what I see in him as you've probably already asked this question and gotten the same answers a gazillion times during your 4 years on this website. Thus, I won't engage in that with you. While I appreciate your response, you are being confrontational and I'm not here for that. The name of this website is enotalone. Not econfrontational. Please remember that in your future responses. Thanks! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Capricorn3 Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 You were a booty call - nothing more, nothing less. When you told him no more, he left to find it elsewhere. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pinksag Posted October 9, 2015 Author Share Posted October 9, 2015 Thanks everyone. I agree and refuse to be a booty call to anyone. I don't knock anyone else who indulges in this. Its just not for me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tayla92 Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Agree with all the responses above, cut him off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
notalady Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Agree with everyone else. And trying to control if you can go out with your friend, what?! He didn't dump you, you're dumping him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greta96 Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 You were extremely smart to cut off the sex as soon as he stopped dating you! Just look around this forum and see how many women keep giving sex, in hopes the guys would change their minds and finally start treating them as they should - but nope, it ain't happening (no surprise there...). So it's refreshing to read what you wrote, kudos to you for knowing your value and not lowering yourself to being downgraded to a booty call! With that said, I don't see the point in you wondering where he went. I mean...who cares? He wasn't able to appreciate you, you did what you had to do, and when he saw there was no sex to be had, he ghosted... Don't take it as him dumping you, just be glad he's gone. And if he does try to contact you, be sure to dump him yourself, because this is not a relationship and you can do so much better than a lazy dude who just wants to get laid. Move on, keep valuing yourself and never settle! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SooSad33 Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 "A few weeks ago, I went out with my friends and he did not like that" - Too bad. You don't 'owe' him anything! Even in a normal, healthy relationship you are allowed to still have a Life. Move on- away from this one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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