Aelvidge Posted October 4, 2015 Share Posted October 4, 2015 We've been together for a few months, known each other for 6. We see each other 2/3 times a week and have just returned from a holiday together. His dad has flipped out telling him he can only see me once a week and 2/3 times a week is far too much. He doesn't understand why we would want to sleep over each other's houses either. I haven't met him yet and was planning on it but he has now said he never wants to meet me and doesn't agree with the relationship. We love each other but seeing each other once a week isn't a relationship?! We both work full time so it would only be an evening, not a full day. He has tried talking to his dad but he threatens to kick him out the house then he would have no where to go. Advice please? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted October 4, 2015 Share Posted October 4, 2015 If he works full time (and can support himself) why is he still living with his dad? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aelvidge Posted October 4, 2015 Author Share Posted October 4, 2015 He's 18, in the process of saving for a house. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted October 4, 2015 Share Posted October 4, 2015 Well, then, for now, you'll have to meet once a week. It's tough but if it's meant to last, it will...and when he gets his own place, you'll have all the time in the world Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Movingforward3 Posted October 4, 2015 Share Posted October 4, 2015 Dad's rules. Have to get on your own to make your own Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seraphim Posted October 4, 2015 Share Posted October 4, 2015 Ahhh well, not every 18-year-old gets the opportunity to save for a house while their parents pay for everything until then. When you live in your parent's house then it's their rules. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melancholy123 Posted October 4, 2015 Share Posted October 4, 2015 I used to tell my son - my house, my rules. When you have your own place you can do what you want. He's 28, has his own place, does what he wants. I think that dad must have said the same thing to his son. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seraphim Posted October 4, 2015 Share Posted October 4, 2015 I used to tell my son - my house, my rules. When you have your own place you can do what you want. He's 28, has his own place, does what he wants. I think that dad must have said the same thing to his son. Absolutely ,I have an 18-year-old son and he doesn't tell me what the rules are at my house. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j.man Posted October 4, 2015 Share Posted October 4, 2015 This is the precise reason I moved out as soon as I graduated at 17. No amount of free rent or food is worth giving my my freedom as an adult. Several years back, I had to move back home for 6 months after I broke up with my live-in girlfriend in another state. My mom told me upfront that if I come back home, I need to have a full-time job and a part-time job, or go to school full-time and work part-time. I didn't bat an eye and simply said, "Claro." If you're an adult living at home, you've got no room to barter. You deal with it. I saved up all the money I needed after 3 months and gave her a kiss and went my merry way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catfeeder Posted October 5, 2015 Share Posted October 5, 2015 He's 18, in the process of saving for a house. Looks like he'll need to decide whether to stay at Dad's long enough to buy the house, or to save just enough instead to move out earlier and rent on his own or with roommates. That's not his Dad's decision, it's his. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abitbroken Posted October 5, 2015 Share Posted October 5, 2015 We've been together for a few months, known each other for 6. We see each other 2/3 times a week and have just returned from a holiday together. His dad has flipped out telling him he can only see me once a week and 2/3 times a week is far too much. He doesn't understand why we would want to sleep over each other's houses either. I haven't met him yet and was planning on it but he has now said he never wants to meet me and doesn't agree with the relationship. We love each other but seeing each other once a week isn't a relationship?! We both work full time so it would only be an evening, not a full day. He has tried talking to his dad but he threatens to kick him out the house then he would have no where to go. Advice please? Are you guys in high school? College? Or is he graduated and working? I think if he is working and going to school, seeing you 3 nights a week could be taken up the bulk of his free time. maybe dad is not seeing that he is developing other interests aside from having a girlfriend - which is important at 18 - or is slacking off on other things. If he is 18 and living with dad - that is a fine age to live with your folks. It is okay to be 18 and live with them if you are not yet established yet. I also think that if he is 18 living with dad, that there is no way you should be spending the night at his place. At all. Show some respect. Sounds like dad cares about his son - that is good. Here is the other thing - if you don't know your boyfriend well enough or are close enough to have met his dad yet - why not? If you have known him for all these years - is there a reason? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abitbroken Posted October 5, 2015 Share Posted October 5, 2015 We've been together for a few months, known each other for 6. We see each other 2/3 times a week and have just returned from a holiday together. ( Who goes on a vacation with a girl and yet has not introduced her to his parents? Something is fishy here. Either this guy is lying that dad never wants to meet you so he can string you along or there is more to the story. My mom and dad would have flipped out if at 18 i went away for a week with a guy that was not a relative of mine. They might marginally be okay with me going somewhere with a group of friends who were guys and girls but the romantic one on one trip with a guy they never met - they would have flipped out. Same if my brother went with a girl. So keep that all in mind. Maybe he is too intense with you to start with, or has been deceptive and untruthful with dad and things have slipped or fell through the cracks in his life since dating you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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