ClarkK Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 I have a couple of good friends with whom I would like to exchange phone numbers. We have never exchanged numbers in the past because there was no real need, we relied on facebook for all of our communication. This is still the case, but I would still like to exchange numbers anyway for two reasons. 1. To cement my friendship with them and 2. Create a backup channel of communication in case I'm in a situation where a call or text is more convenient than facebook, or I don't have an internet connection. I've decided to use our current channel of communication to send them a message, asking for their numbers. Here is the message I am planning to send, if you could please look it over and let me know what you think, that would be great. Mainly I want to know if it is too awkward, too much, or if I should be more direct. "It occurred to me the other day that I’ve never exchanged phone numbers with any of you guys. Mostly because there was no real need to, nor is there currently any immediate need either. However, to cement our friendship, and because facebook, while it serves as an excellent channel of communication, does have its fault, I thought now might be a good time to exchange numbers. Here is my number: xxx-xxx-xxxx" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 Clark --- if you don't know these people in real life to do this in person, then I don't think this is a wise idea. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
journeynow Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 we relied on facebook for all of our communication. Are you only Facebook friends? If not, you could ask in person, or if you are planning to meet, ask for it, but keep your message simple: Can I have your phone number to add to my contacts? I'm old school, grew up with phone books, don't see phone numbers needing an explanation or having a deeper meaning about cementing a friendship, although I understand cell phones have changed things. But Facebook, that' seems an unreliable connection. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrina Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 I wouldn't do that. If you want to ask them to do something, do it in person. Say, "I'm going to see such and such a movie Friday. You want to go?" If the person agrees, then you can exchange numbers so that you can find each other once there. Saying you want to "cement" the relationship is odd. A friendship will grow organically, or not. You will see if a person puts in an equal amount of effort in communicating or getting together. The people who don't will fall by the wayside. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DoF Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 Clark --- if you don't know these people in real life to do this in person, then I don't think this is a wise idea. Agreed and they are NOT friends either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melancholy123 Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 That's over the top! Just ask for their number and offer yours. Major speeches about cementing a friendship seems weird. Just keep it simple. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClarkK Posted September 24, 2015 Author Share Posted September 24, 2015 That's over the top! Just ask for their number and offer yours. Major speeches about cementing a friendship seems weird. Just keep it simple. That's what I thought. Thanks, melancholy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClarkK Posted September 24, 2015 Author Share Posted September 24, 2015 I am friends offline with all of the people in question. I hang out with some of them regularly. However, a few others moved away, and I am unable to see them in person anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DoF Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 I am friends offline with all of the people in question. I hang out with some of them regularly. However, a few others moved away, and I am unable to see them in person anymore. And distance will kill these relationships..... If you are friends with them in person, then next time you are out say "hey, what's your # again incase I want to text you"? Or something along the line. Then, one day text them and they will have your contact as well. I like what Melancholy said, very true Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batya33 Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 Totally agree with Melancholy as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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