JojoIzumi Posted September 22, 2015 Share Posted September 22, 2015 Tonight I was told by my partner that I am too sensitive down in my...umm, area, and that it is not normal for it to be that way and that it is "too red" Sex has always been painful for me (apart from the odd few times, but most times it has), but tonight he told me that it's not normal for me to be so delicate down there and that he is concerned with the colour. He can't even get a few inches inside without it hurting me. And before him, both my friend and my ex said that I looked like I was in pain the whole time, even when I wasn't showing it so much. I'm scared and upset about this (I just want my body to be normal and have normal sex) I'm going to try and check it out with a doctor, but is this anything I should be really concerned about? Is there any medication I can take or any way to help it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted September 22, 2015 Share Posted September 22, 2015 It is best to see a doctor. There are no meds to fix this issue. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alli Posted September 22, 2015 Share Posted September 22, 2015 You could have an infection that is causing pain & irritation. Take care of that & it might help! Definitely see the doc soon! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
agent1607307371 Posted September 22, 2015 Share Posted September 22, 2015 It could be an infection, it could be an std, it could be thrush, it could be a reaction to your detergent. You need to get to the doctor and be treated by a professional as soon as possible. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JojoIzumi Posted September 22, 2015 Author Share Posted September 22, 2015 Like what? I had cystitis last year, but I managed to clear that up with anti-biotics. I can't think what it would be... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alli Posted September 22, 2015 Share Posted September 22, 2015 Agent named a few. Pelvic Inflammatory Disease, HPV, a yeast infection, trichomoniasis for a few other possibilities. Maybe even an undiagnosed estrogen deficiency leading to atrophic vaginitis (a fancy way of saying thinning of the skin down there). Or maybe you just need to use more lube. There's no way to know without seeing a doctor! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melancholy123 Posted September 22, 2015 Share Posted September 22, 2015 We aren't doctors! Please go see your doc asap and get this sorted out and resolved! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted September 22, 2015 Share Posted September 22, 2015 We aren't doctors! Please go see your doc asap and get this sorted out and resolved! Well...Alli could be!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alli Posted September 22, 2015 Share Posted September 22, 2015 Well...Alli could be!! Haha I will be soon but I don't diagnose! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tiredofvampires Posted September 22, 2015 Share Posted September 22, 2015 Like what? I had cystitis last year, but I managed to clear that up with anti-biotics. I can't think what it would be... So you cleared up a bladder infection -- but antibiotics can kill the good bacteria in your vagina, which may lead to imbalances such as a yeast infection. But you also say sex has always been painful. Was it painful and red down there even when you had no bladder infection issues? Also, do you use birth control pills? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JojoIzumi Posted September 22, 2015 Author Share Posted September 22, 2015 Agent named a few. Pelvic Inflammatory Disease, HPV, a yeast infection, trichomoniasis for a few other possibilities. Maybe even an undiagnosed estrogen deficiency leading to atrophic vaginitis (a fancy way of saying thinning of the skin down there). Or maybe you just need to use more lube. There's no way to know without seeing a doctor! I looked up Pelvic Inflammatory Disease and it seems that none of the symptoms apart from painful sex apply to me. I mean, I can get on with my daily life just fine, it's just when I have sex that I'm experiencing this problem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tiredofvampires Posted September 22, 2015 Share Posted September 22, 2015 Agent named a few. Pelvic Inflammatory Disease, HPV, a yeast infection, trichomoniasis for a few other possibilities. Maybe even an undiagnosed estrogen deficiency leading to atrophic vaginitis (a fancy way of saying thinning of the skin down there). Or maybe you just need to use more lube. There's no way to know without seeing a doctor! Not professing to be a doctor (even even one in training), but PID doesn't manifest as pain and redness in the external genital area. It's in the abdomen... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alli Posted September 22, 2015 Share Posted September 22, 2015 Not professing to be a doctor (even even one in training), but PID doesn't manifest as pain and redness in the external genital area. It's in the abdomen... Yeah it mostly involves the upper portion of the reproductive tract. But I did read that it can cause pain during intercourse. Not saying which problems are most likely, just some possibilities since she asked. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shellyf62 Posted September 23, 2015 Share Posted September 23, 2015 I have very sensitive skin & have to use hypoallergenic panty liners & toilet paper. I cant use soap, certain bubble baths, certain washing powders....it is ridiculous. When I am allergic to something I get very red & sore in that area, to the point where I have to use cream to heal it. Maybe you are allergic to the tampons or pads you are using? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dottieflanogon Posted September 23, 2015 Share Posted September 23, 2015 You are sexually active, so you need to have a pap smear done. While doing this, the Dr can check if your hymen is still partially intact or if there is anything else causing this problem Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lucia Amman Posted September 23, 2015 Share Posted September 23, 2015 It doesn't has to be any medical condition. When I started having sex it was painful for a very long time. I got checked but nothing was there to see. It was just a matter of making my down under area more stretchy and adaptable. I'm just saying: get a doctor look at it but don't immediately be worried you have some rare condition or disease. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JojoIzumi Posted September 23, 2015 Author Share Posted September 23, 2015 So you cleared up a bladder infection -- but antibiotics can kill the good bacteria in your vagina, which may lead to imbalances such as a yeast infection. But you also say sex has always been painful. Was it painful and red down there even when you had no bladder infection issues? Also, do you use birth control pills? I don't know about the redness, but from the first time (which I expected to hurt) it has always been a bit uncomfortable. My sister reckons that I just need to find ways to relax myself. And no, I haven't been on the pill for about two years now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JojoIzumi Posted September 23, 2015 Author Share Posted September 23, 2015 My sister told me a similar thing (she's a nurse) and that it could be rubbing that's causing it too (like when you walk around and your thighs rub a lot. I get this a lot sometimes because I have big thighs), so perhaps it could be that. I'm not really sure. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tiredofvampires Posted September 23, 2015 Share Posted September 23, 2015 Well, normally you would know whether your thighs are raw or the opening of the vagina is raw. Usually when you're having sex, you can tell if the pain is in your thighs or your vulva, yes? (the vulva is the fleshy mucous membranes of your genitals and the vaginal opening). Do you have pain in your vaginal area when you are not having sex, just doing your daily business? Do tampons bring on the pain as well? You do have to see a doctor, but I would make sure to see one that is familiar with this condition and knows how to test for it. The test is very simple and involves touching a Q-tip to spots within your vulva to see if they hurt. If you google vulvodynia, vestibulodynia, and vulvar vestibulitis you'll get a lot of overlap information, even though the term that is most used now is vestibulodynia, as those articles state. And as you can see, there may be many different causes, and for each woman the triggers or cause might be different. (I asked about whether you use the birth control pill because sometimes that can lead to this condition). It can hurt only during penetration or when the area is rubbed/touched ("provoked vestibulodynia") or even when you aren't even touching it ("unprovoked vestibulodynia"). Routine gynecological visits don't involve testing or examining for this, and MOST ob/gyns have heard of it but are not practiced in diagnosing it. It's not a standard thing they are trained in. Be sure to get a referral to a gynecologist that is familiar with it and has not just heard of it in the literature but has some working knowledge of it, so that you can be properly examined with this possible diagnosis in mind. They will have to rule out other things first, which have already been mentioned in this thread. A gyn who works with "pelvic pain" is a good bet. One other thing, you might want to consider if condoms and lubes are irritating you (if you're not on the Pill). Unless you're using unlubricated condoms, condoms are pre-lubricated, and if you're allergic to that or to rubber, or the lubes you use during sex, that could be at least one contributing factor. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WithLove Posted September 23, 2015 Share Posted September 23, 2015 I think I remember you saying you are pretty asexual. It sounds more like you're not ever "warmed up" enough for it to be pleasurable for you, so I think this could be a cause. But definitely get into a doctor to see if there's other things going on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JojoIzumi Posted September 24, 2015 Author Share Posted September 24, 2015 No. I can get on with daily life fine, it's just when I occasionally have sex that it's too painful for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JojoIzumi Posted September 24, 2015 Author Share Posted September 24, 2015 I'm not asexual, that was just a low sex drive. I reckon it might be irritation, so I've been taking this cream since yesterday. Hopefully it'll help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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