Can i really forget someone without the need of meeting someone new?

[NICEMAN99]

We were together 18 years and its been 1 year we splitted ... I have been keeping busy trying not to think.

But is still hard... ( easier than a year ago )but still hard.

I havent talk to her in over 8 months.

I avoid all form of contact ... But still think about it everyday .

I dont wish to get back... I just wish i forget and be cool about it.

I am not intersted on finding a GF

And is not that easy anyways

Just wondering if anybody has forgotten someone while remaining single....

[Clinton]

Of course you can. It just takes time, sometimes a lot of it. Hang in there. It will slowly get better.

[ParisPaulette]

Yes, I've always done that. I never could fall for someone until I was clear and free of the last relationship and ready to do so. And that's actually a ton healthier anyways since one should be able to have a life and enjoy it regardless of having a mate or not.

[NICEMAN99]

I thought of this too parispaulette

But i must agree i am having a hard time to overcome this.

Even though is easier than a year ago.

Its not everybody that ends a 18 years marriage.

And in my case it was all of a sudden.

I would say max two months and it was over.

Dont want to dwell on it.... Wish i move on..

Dont want of a girl but it sure must help.

But sticking to it.... Alone until i heal.

But still curious of if possible ....

Cause so far its hard

[kbbcoop77]

My ex wife split after 24 years 18 months ago. I've chosen to remain single but at first I was desperate thinking I needed someone. I still think about her too much but the reality is she's gone, she cheated, she's living with a family aquaintance that sickened our kids but she went off the rails and is no longer who she used to be. I think after the duration of our relationships it's gonna be awhile before we are fully healed, I've accepted that. But yes it's hard.

Take care.

[NICEMAN99]

Yes i have read your story ...

And in my case what makes it harder is ... We have a 3 years old boy.

That sees a guy in the house everyday but sees me 40 hours a month.

She kept the house ..all that makes it hard on me

But still 24 years is harder than 18.

I mean i treated her with respect and love ...

What goes trough a woman brain is a mystery .

I am now seeing amarried woman ( once a week ) whos husband treat her with respect and all ... Vacations let her go dancing alone etc

And she cheat on him..... Cause of what happened to me and from what i see with this woman ....

I have lost hope .

I am better off alone

[No1]

Niceman...Its okay to feel like you are not ready to date.. that's okay. 18yrs is a long time and Ill be honest. Youll never forget about the mother of your child, but what can happen is the emotional attachments to her will fade and fall off. Doesn't mean that you forget her, just means that in time the emotions attached to memories or how you feel about her will detach.

And Love and life doesn't keep score and I think that is what you are doing. You are thinking because she is with someone, she is winning the happiness race or game. Happiness is not a race. It doesn't matter who is happiest first, what matters is that you will be happy and find someone when you are ready.

You have proven that even in mourning you can find a girl. So don't worry about being alone forever because you can attract a woman. So cut that thinking out right now. Imagine how you will be when you make yourself happy? You will have women begging to go out with you. Youll have your pick..

You are okay my friend.. Remember, its not a race.. no score to keep..