Ex text on birthday then blocked

[fiz]

My birthday was on the 4th september, and my two-year-ex texted me wishing me happy birthday.

 

The wish is like this:

"Hello! Happy birthday, may God bless you and may you find your soulmate soon".

 

Well, I am 23 lol.

 

Long story short, we broke up 2 and half years ago. It didn't ended nicely but it's a mutual agreement. We had been together for 5 years. Well, a lot happened during the first year of the breaking up. The rebound relationship is like a habit for him, jumping from one to another. (I did my stalking, shame I know. I've stopped long time ago).

 

A year after we broke up, he texted me for the first time saying he's sorry and he's stupid for letting me go. He even told me about the girls he rebounded. He told me about his depression where he had to take a year gap of his study under medication due to his mental condition. He wanted to be friends but I refused. I am not ready forgive him. But I told him if he needs someone to talk to, he can always count on me. I told him don't ever cut himself.

 

We were not texting on daily basis but he never failed wishing me on festive seasons, birthday etc. Whenever he text me first, we catched up and he will always be the one who ended the conversation. And I do text him too on occasions, but one thing I noticed is that whenever I start the conversation first, he'll reply like he don't want to talk to me. It's like we were in our previous relationship again (by getting back).

 

Ok so, to be honest I am actually waiting for his wish this year. I wanted to tell him I forgive him and apologize for certain things too. Because I am actually forgiven him. It's not like we are getting back but I want peace. Telling him those things make me be in peace. So I did. To be honest I do still love him but I am protecting myself from being hurt again.

 

 

Yeah after his wish (the one I wrote above), I replied "Hello! Thanks for the wish and I've found someone".

He seems interested to know about this guy but I refused to tell him anything. Later he told me about a girl he liked but the girl is getting back with her ex. Well I do think that this girl rebounded him.

 

After 10 minutes of catching up and the forgiving as aplogizing, he said:

"Whoever the dude is, he is damn lucky. Any boys would be lucky to be with you five years ago, but now.. Hmm.. Just so u know, I will never move on".

 

Then he blocked me.

 

I was left there, confused.

If he wanted me back, why he never mentioned it even once. Why he keep jumping from one to another. And why he act like he doesn't want to talk to me when I texted him on previous times? Does he still loves me or it just the ego of him that I've scratch?

 

 

And I need your opinions as a third point of view.

 

 

Thank you for helping me to figure this code! Lol.

[abitbroken]

You guys broke up and you have a new guy. Why are you so concerned whether he blocks you or not? Maybe your text was blocked because he ran out of minutes, or decided that he couldn't handle communicating anymore. It was not healthy for him, perhaps, to be doing so.

 

You were sending him mixed messages, anyways. you told him you won't be his friend, but to contact you whenever needs to talk. So that's a can't win situation for him.

 

Please move on and don't try to analyze what he does or doesn't do or his relationships.

[Dottieflanogon]

It's about him wanting to move on. You don't have to friends , so there is really no reason for you to ever talk to each other again.

 

You are his ex, not his responsibility. That doesn't mean he hates you, just that he just want to move on at this point

[ThatwasThen]

Why are you even thinking about this to the point that you need to start a thread about it. You have "found somebody" so I highly suggest that you put this ex you talk about out of your life for good by also blocking and deleting him and you put your focus on your new boyfriend. If you lied about having someone else then maybe you'd do well to get some therapy to help you figure out why you felt you needed to lie about that.

 

Yeah after his wish (the one I wrote above), I replied "Hello! Thanks for the wish and I've found someone".

Time to let go of the ex for good

If he wanted me back, why he never mentioned it even once.

because he didn't want you back. He realizes you two are not a good match but he was just having a hard time letting go. Good thing he finally got the strength to do what he should have done ages ago.

[HeartGoesOn]

If he wanted to get back together, he'd make it clear and at the same time act like an adult, rather than playing these silly mind games. Of course, this is not to say you're an innocent victim, simply because you're participating by playing directly into his hand.

 

Anything less than "I want to try again" is a game he'll continue to play, as long as he has a willing participate. It's high time to let go...

[Tanzi]

but one thing I noticed is that whenever I start the conversation first, he'll reply like he don't want to talk to me. It's like we were in our previous relationship again (by getting back).

 

That's because the contact is on his terms. After all this time it is still a game to him where he feels like the one who needs to be in control and it seems this control works because had you stopped with all this contact years ago you wouldn't be writing a thread about him now!

 

Ok so, to be honest I am actually waiting for his wish this year. I wanted to tell him I forgive him and apologize for certain things too. Because I am actually forgiven him. It's not like we are getting back but I want peace. Telling him those things make me be in peace. So I did. To be honest I do still love him but I am protecting myself from being hurt again.

 

You should really be past worrying about any of this. I mean is it really necessary to forgive him and apologise after all this time. It should have been buried in the past long ago. The fact that you have actually been waiting for his wish shows that you haven't moved very far on from him in 2.5 years.

 

After 10 minutes of catching up and the forgiving as aplogizing, he said:

"Whoever the dude is, he is damn lucky. Any boys would be lucky to be with you five years ago, but now.. Hmm.. Just so u know, I will never move on".

 

Then he blocked me.

 

Seems to me you both seem intent on making the other jealous. It is likely a bruised ego. If he had really wanted you back he would have made it a lot clearer before now. The point is you both need to stop with the contact. You're both winding each other up for no other reason than it gives you both a little kick.

 

Time to let go of the past and move forwards.