quite contrary Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 So, im just transitioning from an abusive relationship and actually in the middle of moving out. The hard part about it all is we have a 2 year old... But thats besides the point. A few weeks ago at a teachers meeting I met another teacher who had innocently given me his number asking me to text him. I had maybe little to no intentions to texting him until me and my ex had gotten into a physical fight. I had texted this teacher and was honest about being in an abusive relationship and about having a kid. We ended up going out for coffee and almost Talking on the phone every night. We texted each other about our days, told each other good night and good morning. Last Friday we went on our first actual date where we held hands and even cuddle. The next day was even more odd. My ex called and said id better lawyer up because he wanted full custudy... So ofcourse I told the teacher guy I was seeing... But I think I just pushed him away by doing so... He told me that I was moving to fast and I probably need time before I could start something new... But that didnt stop me there... The very next morning I went to his house uninvited (not once but twice!). And I totally freaked him out... I knew I was going to freak him out but I really just wanted to hear it from him face to face... He told me that ill probably see him our next meeting (teachers meeting--we have 3 every year).... But thats not the worse part, in desperation I asked him if he wanted to f*** around before I finally walked away. Ofcourse being the mature 33 yr old (im 25), he told me that wouldn't be fair for any of us... I guess what I want to know is, is it impossible to fix things? I should give him space for sure but does that mean I messed up for good?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seraphim Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 Heal yourself by getting some therapy for the abusive relationship you were in . Settle your divorce and settle custody and get yourself into a good headspace and then think of a relationship. Don't put the horse before the cart. This guy doesn't want to be an escape route or a port in the storm which is what he would be. He wisely walked away from what would've been an impossible relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 There was nothing to fix...there was a date. And you have shown him that you are in not place to even date. Seek therapy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beanpot Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 Don't lower yourself and use sex to attract a mate. The guy that accepts will not likely be a person you can ultimately have a fruitful relationship with. I'm certain there are exceptions, but try not to live life by being the exception to the rule. At least not in the realm of relationships. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hollyj Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 Good grief. You have just come out of an abusive relationship. You need counseling, not another man. You need to deal with your issues - stay single for at least a year - to understand why you were in that place. Stop going from man to man. Deal with your issues, and your child. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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