Reflections11 Posted August 25, 2015 Share Posted August 25, 2015 So I am 31 years old. I always promised my self I would get out of my home state. There are so many places in the country I would love to live in and explore. I went out of state for college, and then lived abroad after that for a little bit. I came back home to live with my parents for a little bit as I got a job and started getting on my feet. Well I ended up getting a really good job in my home town, and then my social life exploded in the best possible way. I ended up staying in my hometown (though not living with my family) for many years and with no regrets. However, I do think about moving sometimes. I always wanted to live in California, or Colorado, or maybe New York, or some other places. But I feel very attached to my family now. They are getting a lot older and I really love spending time with them. I visit them every week and they are always so happy to see me and love me so much! I know they would be sad if i left, and I would be sad not to see them often. The older they get the more nervous I get about not having them in my lives i guess. I wish i had gotten away sooner, but nowadays it feels really hard to move far away from them when they matter so much to me. But at the same time I know I am really limiting my experiences of life, and maybe missing out on my own dreams because they don't want me to leave and I am scared to step too far away from them now. Anybody relate to this situation? What would you do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melancholy123 Posted August 25, 2015 Share Posted August 25, 2015 I think you should move to wherever you want to be. Nobody ever died regretting having travelled! You can visit your parents as often as time and money permits. If they have others around to visit them, check up on them, etc., then that should lessen your worry. I believe it's wrong to sacrifice your life by living close by parents when you dont really want to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
luminousone Posted August 25, 2015 Share Posted August 25, 2015 I actually moved accross country from my family. I was finally about to move back near my family after 10 years, when I met my husband to be, so I never moved back. 26 years, 2 kids, (and a divorce) later, I am having to travel as much as I can to go help my elderly parents (in their 90's). I wish I lived closer, so I could help them in a way that they need and deserve. But I can't because of the kids, house, job, etc. Also when the kids were small, I had no family to help out. Eventually we moved to be close to my in laws, which really does help. But it is not the same as being near my own parents and family. It all depends on you and your own situation. And your life goals. I think a better solution is to move to another part of the state. Like about 2 hours away. And then do lots of travel from there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reflections11 Posted August 25, 2015 Author Share Posted August 25, 2015 I think a better solution is to move to another part of the state. Like about 2 hours away. And then do lots of travel from there. hehe, i am probably in the best part of the midwest. Moving 2 hours within the state would be a downgrade for sure. Only worth it to me if I move somewhere that is new and exciting to me! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abitbroken Posted August 25, 2015 Share Posted August 25, 2015 Why not go on a vacation to another place or buy a vacation home - that way you will still be around your family but can go somewhere else and have a base there? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigKK Posted August 25, 2015 Share Posted August 25, 2015 You're only 31... My opinion is move if you feel the need. People do it at every age. You're going to feel stuck when you're 45 and still in the midwest having never answered your questions of what if Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chitown9 Posted August 26, 2015 Share Posted August 26, 2015 I lived only a few miles from my parents' home. I did not do it intentionally, just liked the house and it was near my parents' house. As they aged it really proved to be the best thing I could have done as I assisted them in their last years and it would have been so difficult if not impossible to do. However, I must admit that I was living in a metropolis and was not disatisfied with my environment. It was in LA County, California. It sounds like you are happy where you are, so why not stay put? You can always travel.... chi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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