Not sure if he likes me, but here is what I've noticed:

[philosomermaid]

Over the summer, I sort of fell for my music teacher and I am not sure if he is interested in me. He is a lot older than me--10+ years, but intellectually, we are very similar. Here is what I've noticed so far and I'm hoping someone out there can help me "translate" these actions:

 

1. Ever since I started taking lessons from him, I noticed that his face is always sweaty for the first half of the lesson even though it is very cool where we are. He's usually fine towards the end though.

2. He recently asked me to see a movie with him, but it was a cartoon and the tickets were free because his friend works at the theater.

3. We also went to a chamber music concert together and something really embarrassing (but sort of funny) happened to me there, but he has never mentioned it or teased me about it--he just said he enjoyed going to the concert.

4. We always go over our allotted time together, but he never asks to be paid more and I think he sometimes even stalls or he lets me stall.

 

Let me know if more details are needed. I appreciate your help!

[musicman777]

Ah man, musicians! I know I am one, look at the username. Everything you talked about, I would say it could be both ways. One one hand, the sweating, the inviting you to do things, and stalling for time with you may all be subtle signs he is into you. On the other hand, you may be over-analyzing him and he may just be acting friendly towards you for being a good student of his.

 

What are your ages may I ask? 10 years older than you, huh? I'm assuming you are both adults in an adult setting and these are professional music lessons. Well, regardless of what it is the person is teaching (music, karate, yoga) the role of the teacher ultimately is to be professional and NOT get involved with their students. With that being said, sometimes love happens in unexpected places, and it is not entirely inappropriate if you two naturally fall for each other. Just make sure he isn't using his profession as a means to pick up women, in that case I would run the other way.

 

If you really like him, why don't you just tell him instead of playing games and guessing how he feels? After your next lesson, say "hey, I hope this isn't inappropriate but I really like you, how would you like to go on a date sometime?". That's all you have to say. Yes, women can ask men on dates and engage in first contact! Just tell him you are interested and you want to date, period. See what he says.

 

Let me finish - this may complicate things music-lesson wise. If he isn't interested in you, it may be weird/awkward when you take music lessons in the future. It could also be weird/awkward if you two do date and then break up. Just be weary of that. On the other hand if things go well for you two you may get free music lessons.

[SpottiOtti]

Hmmm . . . How old are the two of you? How much longer do you plan to take music lessons from him? Would you feel comfortable dating him while still having him in the role of "expert", and do you think that might affect the dynamic and perception of equality between the two of you in a relationship scenario?

[philosomermaid]

What are your ages may I ask? 10 years older than you, huh? I'm assuming you are both adults in an adult setting and these are professional music lessons. Well, regardless of what it is the person is teaching (music, karate, yoga) the role of the teacher ultimately is to be professional and NOT get involved with their students. With that being said, sometimes love happens in unexpected places, and it is not entirely inappropriate if you two naturally fall for each other. Just make sure he isn't using his profession as a means to pick up women, in that case I would run the other way.

 

I'm an English major--it's my job to over-analyze things, so that's why I'm here--to make sure I'm not doing that, hah! As for our ages, I am 21 and he is 32. What you said about professionalism is the reason why I have held back (it may be his reason too, but I'm no mind reader). Tomorrow will be my last lesson with him as I have to go back to school, but he will be visiting the area I'm at occasionally. As we will no longer be in a teacher/student relationship for awhile, so I'm thinking of maybe testing the waters, but only if I have justification for doing so.