treehugger101 Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 What do you do if your partner is in school attending college, and doesn't have the time to hang out with you, or even talk to much as much as you use to hang out and or talk? Would you have them come over to your place and do their homework there or let them do it on their own time or just let them focus on school and forget the relationship? What would you do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bulletproof Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 There's no "letting"; if he or she wanted to do homework at my place, that's fine. If not, that's okay too. But if you are barely seeing each other, then maybe it's not a relationship any longer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sara-pezzini Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 There's no "letting"; if he or she wanted to do homework at my place, that's fine. If not, that's okay too. But if you are barely seeing each other, then maybe it's not a relationship any longer. Based on the previous threads it wasn't anyways! I'd say school is more important than a relationship, plus with all the other issues i would leave this! But then again, you want to keep that label of having a boyfriend..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melancholy123 Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 I think education should come ahead of dating, but even a student needs to take a break from time to time so that's when you could get together. I dont see how doing homework at the other person's place would work, there's too much temptation to put it aside to hang out. It'd take major discipline to get the work done first. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
treehugger101 Posted August 21, 2015 Author Share Posted August 21, 2015 I don't care if I am single and alone. But I believe in this relationship and know we can work through the hard times. I've been in worse relationships than this one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sara-pezzini Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 That must have been really horrible relationships then! From all I've read i wouldn't want to be in a relationship like this. That said, i think if he comes over for homework he can't really focus on studying so that might not be a good idea. I'm sure there are other times to get together. But weren't you taking a break from him? Maybe that's a good idea and let him focus on studying Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boltnrun Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 I don't care if I am single and alone. But I believe in this relationship and know we can work through the hard times. I've been in worse relationships than this one. Well, look at the bright side. If you're doing your schoolwork at his house he can't accuse you of having strange men over. And you will be available to respond to him immediately. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sara-pezzini Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 I am still shocked with all these threads that you guys are 28,there is so much immaturity in all the fights and stuff you say that i am really baffled.....i was expecting you guys to be teenagers to be honest Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sara-pezzini Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 Well, look at the bright side. If you're doing your schoolwork at his house he can't accuse you of having strange men over. And you will be available to respond to him immediately. Well if he is schizophrenic he could still find a way though.................. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boltnrun Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 Well if he is schizophrenic he could still find a way though.................. I forgot about the schizophrenia! So yeah, he could still hear the voices and accuse the OP of having men over and maybe hiding them in the bathroom or under the desk? OP, I think he wants you to do your schoolwork at his house so he can keep an eye on you. Why don't you two just move in together so he can watch you 24/7? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather Dawn Posted August 26, 2015 Share Posted August 26, 2015 treehugger, how many accounts do you have? And why? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boltnrun Posted August 26, 2015 Share Posted August 26, 2015 Heather, I don't know if the OP has multiple accounts, but she does create about a thread a week complaining about her boyfriend's weird behavior. Then when people suggest he's weird and controlling and insecure and obsessive and that she would be better off without him, she defends him and says he really loves her and they've worked it out and everything is fine. HOWEVER...she did admit several threads ago that she holds onto the relationship because she hates being alone, and that it took her years to find this boyfriend so no way is she going to break up with him. I just wait for the weekly complaint thread and re-post my same advice from all the previous threads. OP, so I presume you two have worked this out and everything is fine and he really loves you a lot? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather Dawn Posted August 26, 2015 Share Posted August 26, 2015 Heather, I don't know if the OP has multiple accounts, but she does create about a thread a week complaining about her boyfriend's weird behavior. Then when people suggest he's weird and controlling and insecure and obsessive and that she would be better off without him, she defends him and says he really loves her and they've worked it out and everything is fine. HOWEVER...she did admit several threads ago that she holds onto the relationship because she hates being alone, and that it took her years to find this boyfriend so no way is she going to break up with him. I just wait for the weekly complaint thread and re-post my same advice from all the previous threads. OP, so I presume you two have worked this out and everything is fine and he really loves you a lot? Maybe I was looking at the wrong number, but it looked like her post count had reset. Regardless, your post made me laugh...LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thejigsup Posted August 30, 2015 Share Posted August 30, 2015 The OP is also very entitled. Neither her nor her bf work,but he goes to school. Both of their parents support them and the OP gets angry because her mother tells her not to spend the money SHE gave her on frivolous things, like weekends with her bf. This girl is a piece of work! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sara-pezzini Posted August 30, 2015 Share Posted August 30, 2015 I do wonder somehow if the OP isn't the one with schizophrenia or something because all these posts and replies certainly are not normal! Have you ever tried to get any kind of counseling? You have to realize that this is not normal right? Your posts and your responses? And total lack of managing your own life.....I'm baffled...... Or maybe it simply is someone messing with all of us and having a laugh. This all cannot be real..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boltnrun Posted August 30, 2015 Share Posted August 30, 2015 This week's post isn't a complaint about the weird boyfriend, but about how the OP's parents are giving her a hard time because neither she nor her boyfriend work, but they want to spend a 3 day weekend in a hotel. Of course, expecting the parents to give them the money. And how she expects to be PAID for doing chores at home. I can see now why she clings to this weirdo boyfriend. No one wants to take on the responsibility of a 28 year old who hasn't worked in 4 years because she won't actively look for a job. Except, of course, another 28 year old who doesn't work. OP, what is your boyfriend studying? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batya33 Posted August 30, 2015 Share Posted August 30, 2015 What do you do if your partner is in school attending college, and doesn't have the time to hang out with you, or even talk to much as much as you use to hang out and or talk? Would you have them come over to your place and do their homework there or let them do it on their own time or just let them focus on school and forget the relationship? What would you do? I don't think this is just about school situations. I used to work unpredictable hours, often bringing work home at night or being on deadline over a weekend. Typically I dated men with the same unpredictable schedules. If we could get work done at home then sometimes we'd be in the same house/apartment on our computers or the phone getting work done and we'd take short breaks together or grab a quick dinner. No need to forget the relationship. It can mean it's more challenging as far as making time for each other but relationships have their external/logistical challenges -that's just life. If your gf doesn't think she can focus on studying at your place -or with you there -that's completely valid and you'll make time a different time to see her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sara-pezzini Posted August 31, 2015 Share Posted August 31, 2015 This week's post isn't a complaint about the weird boyfriend, but about how the OP's parents are giving her a hard time because neither she nor her boyfriend work, but they want to spend a 3 day weekend in a hotel. Of course, expecting the parents to give them the money. And how she expects to be PAID for doing chores at home. I can see now why she clings to this weirdo boyfriend. No one wants to take on the responsibility of a 28 year old who hasn't worked in 4 years because she won't actively look for a job. Except, of course, another 28 year old who doesn't work. OP, what is your boyfriend studying? Hopefully something that pays a lot since he will have to pay for her too! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather Dawn Posted August 31, 2015 Share Posted August 31, 2015 The OP is also very entitled. Neither her nor her bf work,but he goes to school. Both of their parents support them and the OP gets angry because her mother tells her not to spend the money SHE gave her on frivolous things, like weekends with her bf. This girl is a piece of work! Wow! I had no idea! And she's 28 (according to another post)? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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