danutz0301 Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 Hello everybody, there's at school, my colleague - the girl - which flirts with me like most of the time we're having contact. She calls me to help her at classes, she kisses my cheeks without my requestion, she's sending me all the day long flying kisses, but she has a boyfriend - an ugly one. It was at a moment when she kind of asked me to get my arm around her waist but I didn't pay attention and I missed the moment - we were in town with our collegues. Once I didn't go to school because I was very sick and she asked two days consecutively my friend what's wrong with me and why I'm not at school. She lets me to play with her hair, she even bited my arm. I just don't know what this means if she has a boyfriend, I think it's too much for a girl with a boyfriend. You know... I just don't want to get toyed and used. What should I do, how should I proceed, should I deny her or just keep it like this. NOTE: I am the kind of Nice guy not so tough Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dottieflanogon Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 Do not get your hopes up. She has a man. This means unavailable... for now. Keep talking to her. She may be looking to trade up and is testing you to see if you're worth the risk, ie, leave her boyfriend for you. She could be just seeking attention only, flirt with other guys to boost her own ego and prove that she still has "it." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 She is toying with you and making you look like a chump since everyone knows she has a boyfriend. If she bites your arm, it means she feels dominant over you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snny Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 She calls me to help her at classes, she kisses my cheeks without my (request), she's sending me all the day long flying kisses, but she has a boyfriend - an ugly one. It was at a moment when she kind of asked me to get my arm around her waist... To the bolded parts, she's crossing the line. These gestures are extremely inappropriate and disrespectful to you AND her current relationship. She is an attention W and you are being treated like a tool. Go figure. NOTE: I am the kind of Nice guy not so tough Bullocks. You're enjoying it just as much as she is- otherwise you wouldn't insult her boyfriend on a public message board. A true "nice" guy wouldn't put up with behaviors from girls like her, and aren't afraid to tell her to "knock it off, I'm sure your boyfriend wouldn't like you doing this to me." You're either a decent human being with boundaries or a doormat. Pick which one you want to be; it will determine how you'll be treated. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melancholy123 Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 She sounds like an attention seeker, not girlfriend material. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
danutz0301 Posted August 15, 2015 Author Share Posted August 15, 2015 Before posting here I got the same conclusion as you, the flirt she did on me intensified when she kind of found out I liked her. In the first place I thought she wanted to show interest on me because of the crazy things she's done around me while having a boyfriend. At a certain point I started to think why is she all doing this but still being with her bf. And then I realised she is trying to use me. Anyways her attittude was clearly out of the boundries, and yes, the enjoyment disabled my mind of figuring out earlier. Thankz for the replies. But what if she continues with the same attittude on me the next year, should I tell her bf about it? - I forgot to add this on the main post. Once I was with my friends talking and i was standing up. She grabbed my ass litteraly. In the meantime her bf came at the class's door and saw her doing that. He was not so happy but politely smile and take it as a joke without knowing what she's been doing to me for the past few months... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
danutz0301 Posted August 15, 2015 Author Share Posted August 15, 2015 She could be just seeking attention only, flirt with other guys to boost her own ego and prove that she still has "it." The thing is that she knows about other guys that like her, and she does not flirt with them at all and denies them totally, like they are non existent. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TMifune Posted August 16, 2015 Share Posted August 16, 2015 Drama craving psycho. If you don't get out of this soon I can almost guarantee she creates a situation where you and her boyfriend are fighting and I mean physically fighting over her because she gets off on the drama. She's probably dreaming about a day where he punches you in the face because it will "prove how much he loves her." I'm sure the attention feels good, but you can find attention somewhere without the drama. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sportster2005 Posted August 17, 2015 Share Posted August 17, 2015 Some women are just nasty and like the attention. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
relevart Posted August 17, 2015 Share Posted August 17, 2015 She might be cute and you probably like the attention, but remember that she has a boyfriend. And if she does leave him for you, this is how she will treat you, too. Tell her you're hands off from now on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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