ambreaux405 Posted August 14, 2015 Share Posted August 14, 2015 For those of you who are following my story, and thank you by the way, you know that I keep going up and down. I'm told by the wonderful people here that it's totally normal. At least there's something normal about me, right? lol I noticed every now and then that I get this feeling of total panic. That I need to call him up right that moment, tell him this is stupid and that we need to be together,and then everything will be fine. It really feels like end of the world type stuff, like it's very urgent that I fix this now before he moves on without me. Once the panic calms down I usually feel sad, and then I want to call him up and tell him how sad and broken I am feeling. Not sure if that's normal...I'm sure others have gone through the same type of thing. It's just frustrating. One moment I feel almost happy like I am well on my way to healing, and then the next I have panic. I don't want to continue like this. I'm sure it gets better. It's just right now things are still so crazy for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted August 14, 2015 Share Posted August 14, 2015 It is an anxiety attack. Not really normal, but not really weird either. Talk yourself down from it and move along. If they happen too frequently, see your dr. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snoopygal Posted August 14, 2015 Share Posted August 14, 2015 I can't give you advice, I'm in the same boat. Yesterday at work I was sweating my heart was pounding and I just couldn't divert my attention from him to anything else. Today, I've felt stronger. I went and bbought a few things for when I move next week. I've been journaling everyday, and it seems like every few days I get this way. (Although not quite this intense) I don't know what the trigger is, it's not like different things are happening on these days. But I was hoping it might make you feel better to know you're not alone. I don't know if it's normal or not, but at least you have an anxiety buddy! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snoopygal Posted August 14, 2015 Share Posted August 14, 2015 I am curious when you feel this the most? For me it's when I'm working. When I'm at home in the evenings it isn't so bad (he's never here anymore so I know that's not it) do you connect it with anything? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ambreaux405 Posted August 14, 2015 Author Share Posted August 14, 2015 It's the opposite for me. When I am at work I'm focused, hardly think about him. In the evenings though, after I get home from running and shower and everything is quiet, my mind wanders and I start thinking of things I shouldn't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snoopygal Posted August 14, 2015 Share Posted August 14, 2015 It's the opposite for me. When I am at work I'm focused, hardly think about him. In the evenings though, after I get home from running and shower and everything is quiet, my mind wanders and I start thinking of things I shouldn't. I'm sorry you're feeling this way, I know it really sucks. Every ounce in you wants to contact him, just for "one more time". We're addicts. Right now it really sucks. I know in time we'll feel better. But it seems unbearable at times. He and I still talk a little since we still live together, it's like saying hi and bye and that's it, but I really worry about when I don't get that. (I see him less then 5 min a day) I'd like to think we're stronger than we feel or think we are sometimes. Do you journal? It was hard for me in the beginning, but I think it helps. I feel like although our situations are unique, we're still feeling the same things. I've been going to counseling and she suggested journaling. I'm good every few days but not much more. She suggested to write 2 sentences on a piece of paper every time I felt anything. Happy, sad, numb, anything. Sometimes writing it out (even on a post it note) has some sort of relieving effect. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ambreaux405 Posted August 14, 2015 Author Share Posted August 14, 2015 Yes I keep my journal up here. Apart from that, no I don't journal much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Herderp Posted August 14, 2015 Share Posted August 14, 2015 The danger is that "when our partner becomes, in effect, our enemy, we are in the grip of an 'amygdala hijack' in which our emotional memory, lodged in the limbic center of our brain, rules our reactions without the benefit of logic or reason...which causes our bodies to go into a 'fight or flight' response." link removed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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