johnsmith Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 wSo I'm seeing my gf of 6 months today. We live 40 minutes away so it's sometimes not all that easy to hang out more than 2 times a week, so we talk on the phone alot. Let me first start by saying everything I'm writing here literally came out of nowhere. We have a great relationship. And i don't know what her issue is. So yesterday we were texting having a normal convo and i asked her if she wanted to call (like usual) and she said she had alot she was thinking about and would rather just talk to me when she sees me. So I was really confused and a little upset. I waited 2 hours before answering and just basically said ok then talk to u tomorrrow, love u bye. then she texts me later and says "have a great night!!!" and i just didnt believe her enthusiasm so i wrote back "are u ok?" and she said not really...and she wouldnt tell me why but she said it wasn't me, it was that she was in a really bad mood and cant get out of it. I told her she could call me if she wanted and she said she was at her best friend's house. so i didn't answer her for the rest of the night. then this morning i texted her first just to confirm she was coming over today and i said i hope she felt better today. she responded normally with smiley faces and what not, but she also said she wants to go for a walk and talk. So i asked her if we could hold hands, sort of in a joking way, just to kind of get an idea of where she's at with everything. and she said "maybe." and i don't really feel like she was joking, but i was confused so i said "really?" and she said "idk" but then she texts me again and asks me about my day and night last night, and i really just dont understand what's going on. I didn't do anything mean or bad to her at all recently, or anytime really, and if i have done anything minor i've always apologized and ive never been a jerk. I just can't figure out what is bothering her. need suggestions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigKK Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 She might be..but she's so mystical I'd be pretty annoyed with her way of going about it. She might be getting bored or annoyed or has a million other issues and this is the way it's coming out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnsmith Posted August 10, 2015 Author Share Posted August 10, 2015 She might be..but she's so mystical I'd be pretty annoyed with her way of going about it. She might be getting bored or annoyed or has a million other issues and this is the way it's coming out. Yeah i am pretty annoyed with her. But i think about 50/50. i dont know if she is just having a personal thing or maybe shes even been thinking about something family related she wanted to tell me about. But then why did she tell her best friend and not call me? u kno Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigKK Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 It's just a sign of immaturity. If you want to have a talk, you talk to someone. You don't announce "a talk" and leave the person guessing for hours/days...it's disrespectful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j.man Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 Stop reading too much into texts, and stop texting when one or both of you are feeling turbulent. They are way too easy to misinterpret, and frankly, you come off as pretty insecure in your texts to her. If a woman ever texts you saying she's not doing well, tell her sorry, that she can call you if she wants to talk about it, and wish her better. Then give her all the space she needs. Different people deal with emotional difficulty differently. People generally want to be able to deal with stress without worrying about their partners being insecure at the same time. If she's feeling bad, she doesn't want to have to worry about having to hold your hand for the sake of your own affirmation. Some people simply aren't touchy when they're in moods. For me, six months isn't long enough to merit going on a walk, sitting someone down, and breaking up with them. I'd probably just call them. But, again, everyone is different. Maybe she just wants to walk with you and vent. No way of knowing. Good luck tonight. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael777 Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 I suggest you cut contact and go quiet on her for a bit - this is leading in a bad direction. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 I suggest you cut contact and go quiet on her for a bit - this is leading in a bad direction. Well then, talking to her tonight....or rather listening will end the confusion. Going quiet doesn't change the outcome nor the direction. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j.man Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 But then why did she tell her best friend and not call me? u knoI mean...I'm no Miss Cleo but I'd have to say it has something to do with the fact she's her best friend. You're not the center of her universe, nor should you be. If she wants to go to her best friend's house and try to relax with her, it doesn't necessarily mean anything's wrong between you and her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnsmith Posted August 10, 2015 Author Share Posted August 10, 2015 It's just a sign of immaturity. If you want to have a talk, you talk to someone. You don't announce "a talk" and leave the person guessing for hours/days...it's disrespectful. Exactly. I wish she had at least given me a little more insight. The reason I think it's about me is because of how vague she's being. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnsmith Posted August 10, 2015 Author Share Posted August 10, 2015 This helped. I know the holding hands thing was a little insecure, but it was a little more of a fun way to almost joke around and feel out how she was doing. Not that it matters anyways, like u said, texting is really easy to take the wrong way Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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