Should we break up?

[heavzy]

Hi.

I really love my girlfriend, and I know she loves me back. However, I feel like I am not a priority of hers. I understand that she needs to spend time with her family and friends. But she does that so much more than spend time with me. I feel like she doesn't make time for me and only fits me in when she has a bit of spare time. I have spoke about this with her but nothings seems to have changed. Sometimes I think that we should maybe break up because it obviously is not working out and is clear that we both want different things. Eg. I want to spend as much time with her as I can however, she doesn't.

She plans thing with me but doesn't follow through with them. She doesn't exactly cancel on me much but she would say things and then say she can't anymore. She always does something else instead even though she said she will spend time with me..

I feel like maybe I'm just too needy, but I know that if I was with someone else they would treat me as more of a priority and make more time for me. I'm not sure what to do. Advice will be more appreciated. Thanks!

 

Below is a text I was going to send her but decided not to.

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I don’t feel like I’m a big part of your life, I feel like I’m on the ing side and u only see me when you’ve got the time or feel like u have to. I feel like u put plenty of people before me, and you don’t care how I feel about it. You make plans with me, say we’re doing this and that, but most of the time it’s all bull because what you say will happen, doesn't happen. You have no ing guts, you just go along with everything, and you don’t express what you want to do. If it is always going to be like this, or be like this for a long time then I am actually not going to put up with it because believe it or not, I think I deserve more. Maybe this time last year I would blame it on myself and think I deserve less; not more. But nope, I've learned to respect myself and care for myself more than I used to, and I Don’t deserve this if it is going to be the norm for our relationship. Because it shouldn’t be.

I love you and I know that you love me, but obviously it’s not as much as you say you do because you are rarely willing to make the time for me.

I know you have a lot going on right now, but you seem to have the time for everyone else. And you just fit me in where you can. I really can't be doing with that because I know that I would feel more wanted if I was with anyone else who gave me the time and respect which is needed in a relationship. Especially when this relationship is as serious as it is. I'm not mad, I am merely just stating what I think, feel, and Know. Maybe you should do the same.

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[ambreaux405]

How old are you? How long have you been dating?

You do sound quite angry in that text, it's good that you didn't send it. I don't think anything productive would have come from sending that.

[Coldarmy13]

I didn't read your message that you didn't send, but I can already tell you it wouldn't be a good idea at all to send that unless youre ready to break up for sure.

 

Need more details to give an opinion of if youre being needy or not. How long you've been together, how often you see each other, etc. If youre not comfortable with the amount of attention youre getting and she is fine the way things are then maybe you aren't compatible though.

[BedHead]

I'm kinda in the same boat but on your gf side. Me, I like to stay and keep to myself though. I feel bothered when my gf wants to hang out or wants to plan things with me. The way I see your relationship playing out is that if you guys have already talked about it and nothing has changed, it probably won't change. Sorry to say it but you should probably be planning an exit route.