Unsure whether to date

[yummehcheese]

So a little bit of background here. I have a friend who is a little younger than me. All I'll say is that she's not legal until October, whereas I am. This friend and I got very close a few months ago, and I confessed that I liked her. She didn't take it well but we tried to mend our friendship and continue. Long story short, we argued a lot and it all boiled over one day when we decided to cut eachother out of our lives.

 

Two months later, she messages me, apologising for everything and claiming that her anger and confusion in the past was due to liking me back, but being unable to say anything because she felt strange about the age difference, which shouldn't be an issue anyway come October when she's legal.

 

Anyway. We talk about our feelings, she talks about how she's a mess without my guidance. I made her feel safe and valued, etc. I wasn't completely over her either and I do still have feelings for her, and we decided to take it slow and emotionally, seeing what becomes of us with the actual intention to date.

 

Problem is, she's known to flip on her sexuality and feign interest in guys that show her attention. She'll convince herself that she likes them if they like her back because she just wants to be loved. It's never worked out though. However, she's always been sincere and caring with me in the past because I was her best friend. I don't know whether I should continue with this, knowing her past behaviour and that my friends basically hate her, but at the same time, I still do care, and I'm almost certain she's sincere.

 

Any advice would be greatly appreciated from you guys.

[mhowe]

Are you a girl?

 

I think that regardless of what she says, she is simply to immature to date and you will be frustrated by her lack of maturity and fickleness.

[ParisPaulette]

Can I just say run now, and be done with it. She sounds immature as heck and looking for a parent figure NOT a serious faithful monogamous relationship. Anyone who is so hungry for attention and love that she seeks attention from others of a sexual nature and uses phrases like how someone makes them feel safe and valued isn't really looking for a romance. They want a savior or the parent they never had.

 

I predict this ending very badly and you kicking yourself over letting her back in. She has mommy/daddy issues big time.