Don't know if I should contact her..

[mactruck102]

I've been in a long distance relationship for a little over 5 months. Everything was going great even though the distance sucked. We met on a cruise in the beginning of January and spent the whole time together. After that we texted, skyped, and snap chatted each other ever day until she finally came down to visit me in February, where I asked her to become my gf. We would take turns going to see each other usually for about a week each month.We went the whole month of April without visiting because she got a new job, which I'll talk about that later. Anyway the last time I saw her was in July, I was there the 1st-13th. Ever since she started her new job she has been pretty stressed out, and it showed while I was with her in July. She was crabby with her parents and sometimes me but I understood it was all because of her job. But now I don't know if we are still together or just taking a break.

 

2 weeks ago I felt something was up. She was rather short with me, didn't want to skype as much or snapchat and it took her longer to respond to my texts so I felt something bad was going to happen.

 

Last week she called and said she needed some space to think about herself and us and to work on herself and what she wants. She graduated in December and wants to go to Physician Assistant school, and always wanted to go spend some time in California.I supported her with all of these decisions. While we were together we talked about our future together..marriage, kids, etc.. I already have a two year old daughter and my gf loves her, she always said that she wanted to give my daughter a brother or sister..but she told me last week that we moved pretty fast because it was all new and fun, which I agree we did move pretty fast. She also said that she is so stressed out at work all the time being a medical scribe that she felt guilty if she didn't text me on her break or when she got home because she felt bad just taking time to herself and relaxing. She also feels like if she doesn't go to med school or California then she will just feel like she is going to regret it her whole life.

 

After we got off the phone I texted her and she told me she doesn't want me to feel like I cant talk to her, I told her I loved her and she said she loves me too then we went to bed(It was 1 in the morning)..so the next two days after she told me all this I would text her but wasn't telling her "to come back to me" and all that. I wanted to let her know that I would be there for her and I would usually cut the conversation short by telling her to go have fun with her friends and that we will talk later because I wanted to give her her space. I went 3 whole days without texting her then I sent her a message about how I felt about the situation, that I miss her and that I'm going to be there for her whether or not as her friend or by her side as her bf. She responded saying she needs to figure out where we stand in each others lives at this time and that she needs to get in a better relationship with God and work on herself.

 

It's been two days since we've talked or texted or snapchatted, but she still has her profile pic of me and her on her Facebook and also that her relationship status is that we are still together. I want to talk to her and let her know how I feel some more but I don't want to push her away and for her to resent me. Should I just wait it out and hope for the best? I don't know what to do..

 

tl;dr: in long distance relationship, gf says needs time to work on herself. still in relationship on Facebook, haven't talked in two days. need advice.

[mhowe]

She is clear on how YOU feel.

She is confused as to how she feels, and that pretty much means you have broken up.

You can't be together, she has plans for her future that don't include you and you have a daughter that should be your priority.

[melancholy123]

I think she's over you, sorry. She seems to have a lot going on and you both admit you went too fast at the start of your relationship. Leave her be for now, she knows how to contact you if she wants to. In the meantime get out with friends, have fun, do things, dont sit and wait for her to call or text.