thtrgurl79 Posted August 6, 2015 Share Posted August 6, 2015 My BF of 5 years are having some issues....he was in a bad accident and hurt his back. He's ok and back to work but he's been off since it happened. Plus his job has gotten super stressful lately to the point of not even wanting to go in most days but he does anyway cause he's a hard worker. Well last week I picked a huge fight with him and said things I shouldn't have at all and felt like crap after for doing. It hurt him really really bad. Then I got the gut feeling he was cheating cause he seemed very protective of his phone so I asked to see his texts and stuff. So he showed me but he held the phone the whole time and flipped through the things I asked to see. Now he seems more protective of it. I know I've hurt him bad and shown loss of trust and that takes time to fix. Also when he' was at work yesterday I had left a text just asking how he was doing and it took a long time to answer however he was on FB, but still not answering me. Idk if I'm just being paranoid or stressed or what. Please help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted August 6, 2015 Share Posted August 6, 2015 Well last week I picked a huge fight with him and said things I shouldn't have at all and felt like crap after for doing. It hurt him really really bad I think you should take this into consideration. Words hurt and the pain lingers. He may have texted a friend/family with regard to the fight and doesn't want you to see it. I wouldn't go accusing him of cheating. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thtrgurl79 Posted August 6, 2015 Author Share Posted August 6, 2015 I am having such a hard time managing the pain and fear of losing him. I have good moments and bad and days where I can't focus at work at all. I'm having problems eating too. I want to try to not be this way and be like its all ok cause when we are home together things are kinda ok. He still hugs and kisses me we are still intimate, he holds my hand, caresses me etc. then there are times he is distant from me. Will it just take time? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted August 6, 2015 Share Posted August 6, 2015 Depends on what you said during the huge fight. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thtrgurl79 Posted August 6, 2015 Author Share Posted August 6, 2015 I yelled at him about how he handles our youngest child and then (this is the bad bad one) i accused him of treating/comparing me to his ex (BAD) that's the one that really did it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted August 6, 2015 Share Posted August 6, 2015 I suggest, if you haven't already, you apologize for pulling that crap and then promise him you will never do it again. After that, I would just give him the space to process your words and actions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RainyCoast Posted August 6, 2015 Share Posted August 6, 2015 does he? handle the child badly and compare you to his ex? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thtrgurl79 Posted August 6, 2015 Author Share Posted August 6, 2015 No he is strict with him and get frustrated easy with him but he's not mean or cruel to him. He just is more strict than I am. He has never once verbally compared me to his ex no. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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