yabby Posted August 5, 2015 Share Posted August 5, 2015 I need to hear success stories of moving on and being happy again. It's been 8 months since my break up and i'm still incredibly depressed and cry all the time. I don't see myself with anyone else and i still wish we could get back together but it'll never happen so i need to know that it's possible to move on because right now it feels impossible and i feel so broken. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lysflower Posted August 5, 2015 Share Posted August 5, 2015 Big hugs to you. Unfortunately I have no happy successful story to tell you as I am still working on moving on myself. It has been four months and I am still going through the emotional roller coaster although things tend to get gradually better. Currently going through a major down urghh. Have you considered seeing a therapist to talk your emotions through? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pippy longstocking Posted August 5, 2015 Share Posted August 5, 2015 oh there are loads on here .. someone I joined here with at the same time is getting married this year .. everyone else I joined with has well and truly moved on .. you will ..this is just a part of your journey and the universe has something fabulous lined up for you . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j.man Posted August 5, 2015 Share Posted August 5, 2015 My toughest break-up was about 7 years ago. I'd say it took about a year to get over her completely. Initially, I told myself, "I'm going to improve myself to show her I can be a better person." I got two jobs, saved a bunch of money, kept busy doing productive things, and as I improved, I began to see myself improving, felt a higher sense of self-worth, and realized that I was a good enough guy to not need to depend on the affections of a woman who wasn't into me. I realized I could take what I have now and go out there and find someone new. She faded more and more from my thoughts and I got more and more excited to meet new women. Her and I are still facebook friends and we very occasionally catch up with each other, but I don't have a single romantic feeling in my bones left for her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aaron Hodges Posted August 5, 2015 Share Posted August 5, 2015 I need to hear success stories of moving on and being happy again. It's been 8 months since my break up and i'm still incredibly depressed and cry all the time. I don't see myself with anyone else and i still wish we could get back together but it'll never happen so i need to know that it's possible to move on because right now it feels impossible and i feel so broken. My ex left me after three years for a guy shed been doing acrobatics with in private for the last six months (I trusted her), and ran away to the circus with him. I was absolutely devastated. I haven't spoken to her in what must be about 20 months now. It heard through a mutual friend a while back that they're still together, which hurts a bit, but in the end doesn't matter. Because for me, I decided a year ago to make the most of my new found freedom. I've been traveling the world Thailand Cambodia, Laos, Vietnam canada, USA, and now Mexico. I've been focusing on myself, on rediscoverong the confident guy I was before the relationship, before she reduced me to ruin. I've met and travelled with strangers on my journeys, and rediscovered my value through their eyes. I've learnt to trust again, but not unconditionally or recklessly. I've regaineed my confidence with girls, even had a few flings although none have gone anywhere. I've had more adventures some weeks than people have in a year, and learnt to stay positive and trust my inner strength when things go wrong. And I've found hope that one day, I'll meet the right girl to spend the rest of my life with. I just hope I recognise her when I see her! I know everyone cannot afford to travel, but even living in canada for eight months I learnt alot. And one thing I did was to make sure I did something great at least once a week. Whether it was going for a ride, hiking, rock climbing, skiing, even going on a date with a pretty girl. So long as I had something to look forward to each week. Good luck dude, find that strength within yourself and realise you don't need her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigKK Posted August 5, 2015 Share Posted August 5, 2015 I was 3.5 years in a relationship and it fell apart, hurt like crazy. I convinced myself and lied to tmyself I don't want her back, at 5 months in I believed it. I still wasn't close to being ready. I met a girl about 9 months later, and unfortunately kind of used her as a rebound. My feelings for her became very quick and went away. After that I felt like I was myself again. I proved to myself I could have feelings for other people and could move on. It took probably 10 months for me. Now I've found a great girl and am happier than ever. Until you can crush hope, you're not going to move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blanco Posted August 5, 2015 Share Posted August 5, 2015 I need to hear success stories of moving on and being happy again. It's been 8 months since my break up and i'm still incredibly depressed and cry all the time. I don't see myself with anyone else and i still wish we could get back together but it'll never happen so i need to know that it's possible to move on because right now it feels impossible and i feel so broken. My first relationship ended when I was 21. We had been together in some form since I was 17. It was your typical first relationship: Not really a great match; just mostly together because you were into each other. It ended, and I knew it was for the best. But I still felt lousy when she started dating someone a few months later. That's when the breakup really hit me. Until then, I guess I had figured maybe it would work out. I was a mess for a couple months, and hurt for a couple more on top of that. Eventually, I moved past it, thanks to having a crush or two to sort of help me move along. But it wasn't until I started dating my next girlfriend about a year later that I realized just how great of a thing it was that I DIDN'T get what I wanted a year earlier. This new girl was an amazing fit for me. We were great on paper and in practice. It ended in part because she left the state after college, but she remains the best girlfriend I've ever had and a benchmark of sorts. She's probably the only secure attachment personality type I've ever dated and I think that's part of why the relationship felt so great to me. I would've missed out on those things had my first relationship worked out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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