Love hurts, especially if you are in love!

[queen_rocks]

I have a big problem: recently, I have been friends with a close female friend who has been engaged for over three-years. To begin with, we were just friends and then we became close friends due to common interests and sharing similar thoughts of the world.

 

However, one evening I dropped her off from work and we had a really great laugh after she was feeling depressed, as she having 'bloke-problems'.

Soon after I dropped her off, she texted me saying: "I have this weird feeling everytime I am next to you" and I was uncertain what she was talking about.

Consquently, I 'caught-on' to what she said and I felt the same feelings too - this was not going to good, as I know her bloke fairly well.

 

The next day, we sat and talked by the pond and we acknowledged our love to each other, but there was a problem: her male companion.

Despite this, we carried on firting and texting to each other and stayed fairly close to each other when ever possible; nevertheless, the gulit grew within myself as we starting hugging and eventually kissed each other.

 

Then one evening, there was a big celebration dinner for our work place and she turned up with her bloke: she was beautiful but, at the same time, felt gulity for the 'secret-relationship' which we had; I too felt the same feelings which she secretly showed me.

I decided to text her the next morning and told her to meet-up to discuss about this love situation and we did.

 

During the 'meeting', she and I both agreed that we should 'start over again', since certain things occurred without warning.

The problem, however, was that I am still in love with her and I cannot get over the love situation!

 

Even now as I type, I find it stressful just feeling the emotions which are presented to me without any warning, and I do not know how to stop this.

thereforeeeeeee, I beg the kind people out there the following: please can anyone present to me realistic solutions and ideas which I can apply for this situation. Just present to me a cure to stop continue 'loving' this women without causing any damage to the fragile friendship!

 

I give many thanks for those who offer such advice and peace and love to all the people accross the world: stop hate forever!

[tallguy]

Well obvisously she is engaged so you should stop this love affair as soon as possible to avoid further trouble. If you are still in love with her I suggest that maybe you should take a vacation to Hawaii or the Caribbeans. which will help you clear your mind and while your at it decide what you should do. I strongly suggest that you take phsycharitry classes to get over her. It will take some time but remember that she is engaged and ending this affair is the only way out of this situation. If you really are desperate you may want to try a dating service. You'll eventually get over her. Hope this helps!

[queen_rocks]

Again, hello.

 

I shall be honest with this since I forgot about this message board! After posting the original message, I decided to speak to her and we called it off.

To begin with, it was hard to accept that someone beautiful may dump me for another man. But, whether I liked it or not, it was for the best for both of us.

 

However a couple of weeks later, her bloke decided to call the engagement off due to personal reasons. I viewed that it was my fault, but it was actually an issue which was within him for 3-months! Although there was an opportunity to see her and try something with her, I decided not to and moved on.

 

Without any encouragements, I 'advertised' myself on of these 'love-matching' websites and, without any expectations, I received over 100-hits within 5-weeks. I was amazed and I even receieved a couple of e-mails from some lovely ladies. But that is another story.

 

Nevertheless I did go away to London, UK for the weekend after the 'break-up' to see Korn live, and I was relieved that we met and 'cancelled' the relationship. Otherwise it would have negatively ended in tears for everyone!

 

Don't get me wrong, but the recent reply indicated that I did the right thing and the advise (regardless of the delivery time ) worked a treat. If there are any other people with a similar problem which I recently experienced, then please follow it. You shall not regret it!

 

Peace and love,

 

Queen_rocks 8)

[sisterlynch]

You should let her boyfriend know that she is seeing other people. That will encourage him to take care of her needs better. If they were truly in love she would never tell you that she was attracted to you. Is a three year engagement normal in England? We in the US normally don't go more than a year! I would say go to that boyfriend and somehow let him know that you are in love or attracted to his girl...If that emitts a punch in the nose, then that is what you get. Maybe he will be a man and back off!

 

You aren't really David Beckham are you? No Beckham would never have these sorts of difficulties! Maybe you are some guy inlove with Victoria! Then you must wait in line...Yes! Wait, all good things come to those who wait!

[queen_rocks]

QUOTE:

"You aren't really David Beckham are you? No Beckham would never have these sorts of difficulties! Maybe you are some guy inlove with Victoria! Then you must wait in line...Yes! Wait, all good things come to those who wait!"

 

No offence, but Posh (Spice) is not my ideal women! Yuk! You have to be mad to get in with her!

 

The other thing that I should mention is that people, who become engaged in the UK, do not instantly walk into marriage within 12-months. Instead, from my viewpoint, it is a test run to see whether the couple are suited to each other. I suppose it is a cultural thing, which is different between the US and the UK.

 

Finally, thanks for he advice, but I prefer the first one which was sent to me.