heyguys Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 Hello, I was just curious how many people think its ok for their boyfriend to go to hooters or some place similar. I feel uncomfortable and my boyfriend has gone a few times. What do you girls or guys think about this? Is going not really healthy for a relationship? I'd appreciate all advice.... Link to comment
lawchic Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 I wouldn't worry too much about it. Hooters is not a big deal. There's no touchy or anything like that. Just some harmless flirting. Trust him...that's the most important part of a relationship. Link to comment
tiger_lilies Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 I would hate it and I would have a huge problem with it. I highly doubt that your b/f is going to Hooters for the food! Give me a break! Link to comment
DragonGirl724 Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 hahaha u should read the strip club topic. lol Hooters isnt anything though. theyre wearing clothes. plus i heard they have good wings. if your BF is respectful he wont hit on the waitress. so i guess just have confidence in your relationship & in yourself....plus if guys do anything to the waitresses there its a big no-no. -DG724 Link to comment
DragonGirl724 Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 I would hate it and I would have a huge problem with it. I highly doubt that your b/f is going to Hooters for the food! Give me a break! hahaha. i can see how it has potential to irritate some GF's. thank God im single & dont have to think about anything like this. lol if it helps any; try going one evening with a few friends & see that it really isnt anything. -DG724 Link to comment
Lonelyinasmalltown Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 Yeah, the food at Hooters isn't that great. Still... Is it possible that the only reason he's going there is to hang out with his buds? If he was going there by himself then I would say that it's unhealthy, but to hang out with friends, it really isn't that bad, IMHO. Link to comment
heyguys Posted January 12, 2005 Author Share Posted January 12, 2005 I know he wont actually hook up with a waitress or anything, but I I dont understand why he needs to go to check out girls that are dressed very skimpy. Makes him seem like a single guy out there on the prowl. I dont know its just gross. He actually invited me to come with them (his guy friends) once. Why would I want to go see my boyfriend around these girls? Link to comment
DragonGirl724 Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 "heyguys": by any chance do u live in NYC or it's surrounding areas? if so eat at Sbarros pizza joint. all they hire is hot guys. or so it seems. *yum!* oh & the pizza sucks & is overpriced. ps: shop at Abercrombie at all? lots of hot fellas work there. its like a requirement! go out & enjoy the innocent eye candy yourself. -DG724 Link to comment
RayKay Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 Oh my even I have gone to Hooters before...there is really nothing to it. Plus what they wear is not considered skimpy by todays "standards" you see elsewhere at other bars/lounges/tv. It really is just a restaurant. Link to comment
avman Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 And its not even a very good restaurant!! My friends took me there for my birthday a couple of years ago and it was nothing special. Overpriced mediocre food and slow service. Yes the girls have short shorts on but other than that there's nothing going on there. I think there are much worse places he could be going instead. Link to comment
Iceman26 Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 Avman's right, at least he isn't going to the Mustang Ranch. Link to comment
Yorkrose23 Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 It doesn't bother me. I've been there and it really is just a restaurant. The way I see it, a woman does not need to be dressed skimpy for a man to hit on her and/or look at her in a sexual way. That can happen anywhere. As far as the clothes go, string bikinis are far more revealing. You ladies who have a hard time with hooters, don't ever let your man go the beach alone. I think really if you are a gal and you have never been, you make it much worse in your mind than it is in reality. Link to comment
Roasted Carrots Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 Let him go, sheesh. You don't want to be the "demanding, overprotective girlfriend" that his friends tease him about, and more than likely, all he's doing is hanging out with friends, having a few beers, looking but not touching. I mean, just because you're on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu! And it's not like YOU haven't ever done something similar (intentional or not). Don't flame me, I'm just making a joke/point. Anyway, he ASKED you for permission, didn't he? He clearly TRUSTS you enough to be open about going to harmless places like Hooters; it would be wise for you to TRUST him to go and have a good time. Besides, even if Hooters has mediocre food and service, it still has a good "hang-out" atmosphere. My family goes there all the time for my dad's birthdays (Note: My parents are happily married and my mom has a great time at Hooters and we love it there. Believe me, if he was doing anything UNtrustworthy, he wouldn't be *asking* your premission. So be the confident girlfriend and encourage him to have a good time. I'm sure he'll be thankful for his new-found (and appropiate) freedom and will find a truly special way to thank you. Link to comment
xbox_modding_freak Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 mustang ranch?? Hooters? What are all these places... -XmF Link to comment
heyguys Posted January 12, 2005 Author Share Posted January 12, 2005 No, he didnt ask me if he could go go. He asked if "I" wanted to go, but he'd probably go anyway. I dont want him to have to ask me if hes allowed to do things. I wish it'd dawn on him that I didnt like it. But I get it, most people dont think its really a threatning place. I have been there before....and I have seen what its like, and I still dont like it. My boyfriend is very attractive and is always being hit on by other girls. I guess I should just get over my insecurities. Link to comment
caramellabacix Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 really, it's just a restaurant. think about it... every single day there are hundreds of guys in that restaurant. the more the girls flirt, the bigger their tip, right? its part of the girls job to be flirtatious, but they really dont single in on any one guy. i'd say the odds of picking up a girl at hooters is slim to none lol, it's just there job, and its even considered a "family-style" restaurant. in every restaurant there a girl waiters, the only difference is that the ones at hooters wear shorter shirts. big deal... he's probably seeing girls dressed more provocatively in the mall. Link to comment
ReadyorNot Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 whats the mustang ranch? Link to comment
Iceman26 Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 The Mustang Ranch is a house of prostitution about a hundred miles away from Vegas.......I read about it in a Maxim magazine. Link to comment
jabean Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 Heck, I'd just go along with him next time he asks. It's obviously, harmless in his mind if he's asking you along. And you'd get to see what is really going on there. It would really only be a problem in a relationship, if it is a serious problem for you (or if he were say going a couple times a week--that seems obsessive). You need to ask yourself if this is a "deal breaker" for you. If it is (makes you totally uncomfortable) it would only be fair of you to mention it. Not that he shouldn't go; but that it does make you feel uncomfortable about the place. The rest would be up to him. Link to comment
DragonGirl724 Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 The Mustang Ranch is a house of prostitution about a hundred miles away from Vegas.......I read about it in a Maxim magazine. and dont forget the Bunny Ranch in Vegas. Playboy bunnies & the oldest Viagra consumer still alive & kickin'. im goin to Vegas in march as a matter of fact...now i know where to drop off the applications. hahahahahaha! -DG724 Link to comment
Luciana Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 Heyguys: A lof of women HATE the idea of their BF's going to Hooters. I told my fiance plain and clear I don't want him there. I foudn out he went there years ago and I was very uspet. There are many other restaurants that serve wings. I knew he wanted to check out young girls half his age with their breasts hanging out and that made me mad. And he confessed to me that the girls DO hit big time on the guys. They sit on their tables and start getting personal. Some accept invitations to go out wiht them. And if they see a guy who's good looking or has a nice car they go for it. Not a place I want my man. So I told him and he understood. So don't feel bad about how you feel. I have a theory: even if we try to be open minded, if something makes you feel unconfortable (BF viewing too much pornography, going to strip clubs, etc) it is for a reason. So speak out your mind. You are not going to restaurants where the men wear speedos and have big *beep*, are you? You don't need that. Link to comment
Iceman26 Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 Did your boyfriend go to Hooters when you guys were together or before he met you? Link to comment
AlleyCat Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 My b/f has been to Hooters several times with his friends and it never even bothered me until he mentioned that he thinks it's "just like a strip club but without the stripping" and their food sucks so no one would ever go there for any reason other than to look at girls. Ever since he told me that, it still bugs me a little when he goes, but not enough to actually say something about it. To me, the intentions are the most important thing. If he's going out to hang out with some friends, and that's where they happen to go, it's not a big deal (and he did even invite you to go too!). But if he's going there specifically to flirt with/check out other women, that's not good. Link to comment
Luciana Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Iceman, he used to go before I met him but he went a few times while we were dating. I think I am a hot woman who is very affectionate and sexy with him. Why does he need to go check out young girls who could be his daughters. I was disappointed, because I don't need to go to bars where the servers are 20 year old dudes wearing speedos with socks stuffed inside and shoving them in my face just to get a higher tip. It is so demeaning, I thought a man like him would have more dignity. I told him how I feel (all my GF's feel the same way about Hooters) and I don't know whether he still goes or not. There is no way I can check since he has a lot of freedom. I wouldn't mind Hooters THAT much if they also had the young hot studs with the speedos. Then it would be an equal opportunity employer! Kidding, I just think it's exploitation. Remember the story about that Hooters waitress that was conned into believing she had won a Toyota but won a Toy Yoda instead? That's the scruples of that place. For me it's a place for redneck men or lonely guys who don't have a GF. But why would a classy guy who has a good looking GF want to go? Link to comment
Iceman26 Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 I went to Hooters a couple of times (when I was single) a couple of times, and yes, the girls wear tank tops and shorts and all that, but I saw families eating there and there were a lot of women that would go there. I didnt think it was really that big of a deal to eat there. Far as the waitresses go, yeah guys flirt with them, but those waitresses probably get hit on by every table of men that they serve, so I for one would never attempt to hit on one, much less date someone who worked in an environment where they get hit on all the time. I know a lot of guys that just go there to hang out with their buddies, watching football or Ultimate Fighting, eating chicken wings and drinking beer. Link to comment
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