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Aww, It is so sad. One of my family members met him once in a bar, he just randomly came over and sat down at her table and they chatted for a few hours--totally out-of-the-blue. She said he was such a genuinely nice person and really down to earth, totally unpretentious, not what she thought he would be like considering his fame.

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I actually welled up when I saw the news. I'm so sad. So, so sad. Especially because it was a suicide. His poor wife and his fans...it's not worth it.

 

Please, if anyone is thinking of going down this road, please don't. Know that you are loved and know that you will so, so be missed.

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I met Robin Williams right around the time he did Mrs. Doubtfire. I think I was maybe 9. I was ice skating in Central Park with Rudy Giuliani's son. Guiliani was talking to my father (they have met several times), and Robin Williams came over to speak with Rudy. My dad motioned for me to quickly get off the rink and come over to them, which I did. Robin Williams seemed really happy with how much I loved Mrs. Doubtfire, I remember him smiling and laughing. Obviously, he's done many more (and better) movies/roles, but at the time as a kid, that was my obvious favorite.

 

His death is really hitting me hard too. I have dealt with depression in the past (though not to this degree), and it can be very painful. I wish he got the helped that he needed.

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It was really weird, I watched Louis CK's show, the episode, with Robin Williams and they visit a colleague comedian's funeral, and joked about how they'd go to each other's funerals... then the next day Robin Williams I hear the news.

 

 

He didn't seem like himself on the show, very somber appearance without really a smile or any humor.

 

It's terrible what depression can do to people, it's a deep dark hole that I hope everyone can climb out of. I've been there

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This is hitting me hard.

 

Please, anyone who might follow his path, stop. It hurts the rest of us. We value you.

 

I have not lost a loved one to suicide, but I have to murder.

 

I think when someone we care about, even if they are a celebrity takes their own life, it leaves us very shocked and confused.

 

Robin Williams, I am sure, and I am sure others have said this as well, hits us particularly hard because he was a comedian.

 

This was the guy whose videos and movies we popped in the DVR when we were suffering from bad jobs, breakups, health problems, lousy bosses, and all things that wear on our sense of joy and vitality. This was the guy we turned to when we were trying to stave off thoughts of what he ultimately did.

 

But please do not let this one act negate his entire life, the fact that he clearly loved laughter and the ability to invoke it in a manner that didn't hurt anyone else.

 

Suicide is sadly very common in the elderly. Health issues, concerns about employment, lack thereof, their ability to provide. And in his case, depression.

 

It is terribly sad. I suspect, that, particularly for those of us that aren't friends, family, or truly close, he would not want us to get mired in questions and doubt or somehow disbelieve his life's work.

 

Rather, I suspect he'd want us to remember him through watching him do what he so clearly loved, even if doing so caused him to have too much difficulty dealing with his own depression or believing that people would care or truly be concerned.

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True.

 

My nephew took his own, surrounded by family and family friends the night before and on a regular basis. Many of us have had that experience when others love us, but we just can't believe it.

 

Very difficult to treat the brain.

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It's one of those things were you will always remember where you were when you heard the news, like with Michael Jackson, Kurt Cobain

 

Have you read his daughter's twitter message about his death? I heard it on the radio (they are doing this memorial thing right now on CBC), it choked me up, but it's perfect.

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I'm reading elsewhere how "selfish" suicide is. Gosh, some people have never lived a severe depression, neither have they heard of mental illness.

 

Yeah, it's really sad when people say that. People who suffer with depression and commit suicide do it because they simply can't live with the pain anymore. It's so painful to be at that point where you just feel like you can't go on. Has nothing to do with love, or being selfish, or whatever. It's about being in such horrible pain and wanting, needing that pain to end.

 

I feel really sad to think about the sort of pain that Robin was in.

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Good post Fudgie.

 

I am reminded of when my mom had cancer, and decided to let it be. She was in too much pain, and wanted peace so deeply, that it was her decision to go. We accepted it; its her choice. We didn't call her selfish, not for a nanosecond. Cancer is a physical pain people are practiced at understanding. We can hang our hat on "cancer".

 

Depression, people get fuzzy about. But I love you! I think that would cure a pain, but of course, it doesn't. We know this from our own experiences. The pain is critically deep, elemental, and within oneself.

 

It would be good if we understood how legitimate that pain is, learn to hang our hats on it, encourage help, medical care and recovery to rid oneself of it.

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I'm reading elsewhere how "selfish" suicide is. Gosh, some people have never lived a severe depression, neither have they heard of mental illness.

 

It really is just straight up ignorance. I can't feel anger though at people who think this way, because they just don't know, and maybe one day they will experience depression themselves or know someone who will go through it.

 

I have never been clinically depressed, but a few of my really close friends have been battling it for years. I have learned a lot from their honesty. I remember a few years ago when one friend was really sick with it, and she stopped returning my calls, flaked on me several times. I was mad at her. I felt that she was being rude and a bad friend and I called her out on it and she explained to me that she could barely get out of bed let alone answer the phone.

 

I started to better understand it when another friend opted to have electro-shock therapy (yes they still do that procedure). She willing chose to have her brain fried twice, and when I asked her why, she said she just hoped that by some miracle, the procedures would stop the soul-crushing mental anguish she had felt every day for the past 20 years. That's when I started to really understand the nature of the beast and what people are up-against when they have it.

 

Hopefully, this tragedy (along with the other recent high-profile death of Phillip Seymour-Hoffman) will at least open up a dialogue about the disease, and help to lesson the stigma.

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The guy who actually called Robin Williams suicide selfish wasn't even challenged on this other forum where he is moderator (no less...!). I wanted to challenge him and his ignorant comment, but after a second thought, cheesing off a mod didn't seem like a good idea, from my experience with forums.

 

I don't know how anyone, in any country, regardless of age has never had to deal with a depressed person around him, family, friends, acquaintance etc... and such show maybe more respect.

 

Robin was treated, but abusing dope and alcohol surely didn't match well with his illness and medication.

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I don't know how anyone, in any country, regardless of age has never had to deal with a depressed person around him, family, friends, acquaintance etc.

 

A lot of people don't talk about it when they have it. There is such a stigma

 

My Grandfather suffered from depression and PTSD (he was a police officer) he was was retired off the Force because of it, he suffered with bouts of depression throughout the rest of his life. I JUST learned this after his death a few years ago, and my aunt (his daughter) never knew and still does not know that he had depression.

 

I did not know that one of my best friends was clinically depressed until an incident where she cut her wrists and ended up in the psychiatric hospital. I had known her for almost 20 years at that point, and had no idea when she became depressed, and how deep it was. She never let it be known to anyone.

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This really hit me hard too. Very very sad to see such a talent with obvious heart and compassion leave this world.

 

I keep hearing these wonderful stories about him. About how he was the first to go to Christopher Reeve after his horse riding accident to cheer him up. Reeve said later that if he wasn't strapped down in a chair, he would have fallen to the floor laughing. After such a tragedy, that is truly a gift.

 

Learning more about his situation, I think people have to also remember he didn't just battle depression. According to an addiction specialist, he was dealing with manic depression, brought on by bipolar disorder. He also was addicted to alcohol and drugs (including cocaine or heroine or both) and has relapsed a few times over the years (after years of sobriety). Interestingly, the doctor/addiction specialist noted that his semi-recent cardiac procedure may have also had some influence on his brain chemistry as well. So, there were a number of factors.

 

I hope he can see the world now ... how many people cared and that he knows how valuable/loved he is. I hope he has peace.

 

I'm just so sad.

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I remember Robin Williams best as Mork. He was one of my absolute favourite comedians as a child (him and Kenny Everett). A real genius. His humour was a bit hit and miss but he was like a firecracker - one joke after another BANG! BANG! BANG! BANG! BANG! so that, even if that joke failed you knew there would be a better one along in about two seconds.

 

Sadly missed.

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He is not bipolar. That is speculation. He may have it not diagnosed, but I don't know and we can't ever know. In one interview, he specifically said he did not, he just presented his characters as "maniac."

 

I don't doubt he's depressed with an alcoholic and cocaine addiction that led him to rehab once, and wanted to go again to maintain his sobriety. I find his recent information about his parkinson's disease would deepen his depression issues his anxiety as that's one of its symptoms.

 

As I have saw a picture for him and thought it was apt. It was a picture of one of those billboards for church. On it, it said, "Robin Williams: Rest In Peace, Make God laugh."

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The guy who actually called Robin Williams suicide selfish wasn't even challenged on this other forum where he is moderator (no less...!). I wanted to challenge him and his ignorant comment, but after a second thought, cheesing off a mod didn't seem like a good idea, from my experience with forums.

 

I don't know how anyone, in any country, regardless of age has never had to deal with a depressed person around him, family, friends, acquaintance etc... and such show maybe more respect.

 

Robin was treated, but abusing dope and alcohol surely didn't match well with his illness and medication.

 

I've been told a lot of men do not seek help for depression because they are supposed to be "strong" and "cowboy up", so they self-medicate with alcohol and sometimes drugs too. It makes me sad the pressure that society puts on our men to be so strong and stereotypically "manly" - I think it must really hurt worse to be in such pain and not be able to admit it to anyone.

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