newgirl45 Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 I've been dating a guy for about a month,even met his children. He has his own business and works quite a but. Recently I stopped hearing from him as much, and about a week ago we broke things off. Several days later he calls to say he missed me and wanted to talk. He said he wanted to go out that night, but later said he couldn't find child care. A few days later I get a text saying its not fair to me that he's so busy and "I deserve better." Haven't talked to him in about a week or so, and I got a text today that says I miss you alot but give me some time to get myself "organized." I think he's just trying to be nice, but of course the silly in love part of my brain has focused in on the "the truth is I really miss you alot" part. Please tell me this is bs and I need,to forget about this guy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 Dating a man with his own business and partial custody of his children means that you are #3 on his list of priorities. Is that what you aspire to? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kendahke Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 How old are his children? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newgirl45 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Share Posted March 27, 2014 How old are his children? 3 year old girl and 9 year old boy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raoul Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 I have three children, am a single parent and run a consulting business that has me busy in the office and traveling. It is very difficult to date, much less have a decent shot at developing a steadier relationship. I go out frequently enough. But the rigors of Dad and executive are demanding. And so. I find myself out and about but usually single after several dates. I probably should not date. Having said all that, the way this fellow handled his situation with you is not a good sign for you and how you figure into his life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amipushy Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 He is very wishy-washy about you and its almost like he doesn't want you but doesnt want someone else to have you. I suggest that you watch the feet, not the lips. Also, if you choose to wait and see if he can infact get himself organised (which you probably will) I think you should SERIOUSLY think about if you want to be involved with a man who has 2 young children and about all that will entail if you do end up in a LTR with him, particulary as he has his own business which means long working hours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batya33 Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 If he was into you he wouldn't risk losing you to someone else while he "gets organized". Or it could be that he's not available to date. I'd move on and find someone who is available to date. At least he told you early on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 Does it really matter if he's telling the truth or not? What matters is that, for whatever reason, he's not available. I would keep dating others and tell him that if/when he gets 'organized', he can contact me and if I'm still single, I may date him again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newgirl45 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Share Posted March 27, 2014 He is very wishy-washy about you and its almost like he doesn't want you but doesnt want someone else to have you. I suggest that you watch the feet, not the lips. Also, if you choose to wait and see if he can infact get himself organised (which you probably will) I think you should SERIOUSLY think about if you want to be involved with a man who has 2 young children and about all that will entail if you do end up in a LTR with him, particulary as he has his own business which means long working hours. I agree with wishy washy. I also have a small child and work 2 jobs, so someone could say the same thing about me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newgirl45 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Share Posted March 27, 2014 Does it really matter if he's telling the truth or not? What matters is that, for whatever reason, he's not available. I would keep dating others and tell him that if/when he gets 'organized', he can contact me and if I'm still single, I may date him again. It matters, because if it's BS won't even consider dating him again. I haven't stopped dating other people either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lorem Ipsum Posted March 28, 2014 Share Posted March 28, 2014 A few days later I get a text saying its not fair to me that he's so busy and "I deserve better." And you should believe him. What the others have said. You're not this man's wife, you don't owe him to hang around and wait while he gets his sh*t together -- which may never happen. Date other people. If he does manage to get his act together and calls you again and you're still single, your choice whether or not you want to go out with him and see if anything's changed for the better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barbie20 Posted March 28, 2014 Share Posted March 28, 2014 This guy has way too much baggage in his life and you wont be the number 1, 2 or even the third priority in his life .He doesnt sound like he has the time right now to date someone so I would move on and just stay aquantances / friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted March 28, 2014 Share Posted March 28, 2014 It matters, because if it's BS won't even consider dating him again. I haven't stopped dating other people either. There's no way to know for sure so, you have to go with what he's been telling you..and that is 'I can't date you right now'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kendahke Posted March 28, 2014 Share Posted March 28, 2014 3 year old girl and 9 year old boy Then he needs to be about raising them and running his company, not trying to date. He's got priorities which don't include a fair dating life... only a selfish dating life and that's no good for you or any woman, unless she just wants a "hit it and quit it" type of involvment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barbie20 Posted March 28, 2014 Share Posted March 28, 2014 well you will never know if he was just being nice or telling you the truth hes a guy you cant tell either way lol but either way you need to get over this and move on with your life it doesnt sound like you will be dating anytime soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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