Jealous of Boyfriends' Ex

[Binoo]

I don't know what to do. I hate feeling jealous of this ex girlfriend.

My boyfriend dated this girl for 9 months over two years ago. In that time she cheated on him, used him for money etc. she only paid him any attention when he'd get paid at work and when his job contract ran out she never spent time with him. He bought her something really expensive for christmas one year and when he showed up to give it to her she was with some other guy. She got pregnant several months into the relationship and terminated the pregnancy randomly. I don't know all the details. Some things he's told me and other things his mother has told me.

She messaged him on Facebook back in December. I asked to see the conversation when I found out about it and he told her to leave him alone but also said he has enough trouble keeping his mind off her and that he hasn't moved on. When I asked him about this he said it was in reference to the baby that was lost but for obvious reasons I'm skeptical. And he says he's traumatized by everything she put him through which I can relate to. I was with an extremely abusive person a few years before I met my boyfriend and it still affects me. Shortly after him and I met he randomly brought up in conversation that he missed her because they had been through a lot together (the pregnancy) and I brushed it off but looking back it really bothers me.

I feel so frikken jealous of this girl. My boyfriend tells me he loves me all the time and says I'm pretty etc. but I still feel insecure about this girl. She's really pretty and obviously had a huge hold on him for him to put up with all the crap he did. I find myself constantly checking her Facebook even though I can barely see any content. I Google her. It's not all the time but I feel like a psycho. I hate feeling like this. I don't know what to do.

[Barbie20]

well I would stop facebook stalking / googling her that is not gonna help you.If you need to talk to her message her on facebook say what you have to say but after that I would be done with that obsession since its not gonna help you or your relationship out.Get the closure you need by talking to this girl if you have to after that never mention this girl again to him or bring it up after that because its done hes not with her hes with you so keep that in mind.It is probably only normal to feel jealous of an ex gf your bf had so dont think its uncommon especially if you have seen / know her then yeah thats to be expected.