Ryanna Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 My long-distance boyfriend needs to establish boundaries with his roommate, with whom he also works. He doesn't get any time to himself unless his roommate is working while he's not, & we try to schedule OUR time in that time so we actually GET some time alone together, but because he doesn't get any time to HIMSELF, he sometimes needs to use that time as fully alone time. This is where I start to take issue with the situation. He's worried that his roommate will take it personally & overreact if he tries to take time for himself. His roommate constantly wants to spend time with him, & when he HAS tried to politely ask for time apart, the way his roommate gets makes him feel guilty & he winds up caving. He doesn't know how to establish boundaries & I don't have any advice for him on how to handle it as gently as he wants to. I'm a direct person who would simply say, "I need time to myself", shut my door & take time to myself, & if they have an issue with it, leave them to cope & get over it. My boyfriend wants to be nicer about things rather than simply taking time to himself & saying, "Sorry, bro. I'll game with you later." Anyone got any super-sensitive ways to handle the situation I can suggest? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katmarie Posted April 4, 2014 Share Posted April 4, 2014 Find a girlfriend for his roommate.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ryanna Posted April 4, 2014 Author Share Posted April 4, 2014 We've tried. Girls will show interest for awhile, then drop all contact with him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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