priscillaj Posted March 26, 2014 Share Posted March 26, 2014 So I finally found the courage to add my crush who I have had a crush since Middle school(we are in our early twenties now). It all started back in middle school where he had a huge crush on me FIRST. He would message me on MySpace(back when it was popular) and we talked on there. He end up moving out of the state Junior year in High school and we never spoken again. I recently found him on Facebook and we have only 3 mutual friends. I added him and he not only ignored my request, but deleted it as well. I have the option to add him again. Why would he deny me? Im pretty sure he remembers me because we its only been a few years since i last saw him. And did he actually have to go on my Facebook to delete my friend request?? Because I have ignored friend requests on Facebook and it never gave me the option to delete the requests. My friend told me he only could have deleted my request by looking at my page. Is this true?? thanks to those who answer in advance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MyNinja Posted March 26, 2014 Share Posted March 26, 2014 No I don't think that to be true. I've deleted upwards of 30 people whom I never spoke to and all I had to do was go to my friend list and select the ones I wanted to delete. I ever had to open their page Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted March 26, 2014 Share Posted March 26, 2014 He deletd it because he has no interest in reconnecting after 5 years of moving on. He might be in a relationship...he might have no interest...who knows. What you do know is to leave it alone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MyNinja Posted March 26, 2014 Share Posted March 26, 2014 Mhowe took the words out my mouth...just move on. Don't analyze it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
priscillaj Posted March 26, 2014 Author Share Posted March 26, 2014 He's not in a relationship guys. I definitely wouldn't of thought about adding him if he was. But I wasn't necessarily trying to reconnect with him, but since he was like an old friend I thought he would be like "hey I remember her" and not have a problem adding me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
priscillaj Posted March 26, 2014 Author Share Posted March 26, 2014 We never were friends on Facebook. Im saying he deleted my request. You can press "not now" or "delete request" and he did both I thought you had to go the the person page who requested you to delete the request. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted March 26, 2014 Share Posted March 26, 2014 Five years of no contact doesn't mean he is an old friend. It means he was once a friend and no longer is! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MyNinja Posted March 26, 2014 Share Posted March 26, 2014 Does it show on your page when someone chooses not to friend you? I never knew that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
priscillaj Posted March 26, 2014 Author Share Posted March 26, 2014 Facebook doesnt notify you when someone declines your request but there are ways to find out if someone has denied it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted March 26, 2014 Share Posted March 26, 2014 Time to move on....... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted March 26, 2014 Share Posted March 26, 2014 Facebook doesnt notify you when someone declines your request but there are ways to find out if someone has denied it. You seem way too invested in a crush from highschool. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
priscillaj Posted March 26, 2014 Author Share Posted March 26, 2014 Lol I know it comes off that way but im really not. Im actually fresh out of a relationship and i just wanted to catch up with some old friends and I was super excited when I saw him on Facebook. But you guys are right I do need to let it go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted March 26, 2014 Share Posted March 26, 2014 My first thought was that he is in a relationship and doesn't want to stir up trouble with his gf. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted March 26, 2014 Share Posted March 26, 2014 My first thought was if I hadn't heard from a HS friend in 5 yes and he FB me out of the blue would be "?". Not remotely curious....more like opening a door that was closed 5 years ago. Different life... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted March 26, 2014 Share Posted March 26, 2014 Yeah, I tend to add people I went to high school with. Though I know others are more selective about their friend lists and only add people they have a strong, in person, relationship with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barbie20 Posted March 27, 2014 Share Posted March 27, 2014 maybe send him a message , other than that maybe he denied your request because he is in a relationship / has a gf now and maybe she looks at his facebook from time to time which is possible .That could be a likely reason its nothing to take too personal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather Dawn Posted March 30, 2014 Share Posted March 30, 2014 Facebook doesnt notify you when someone declines your request but there are ways to find out if someone has denied it. You didn't somehow log in to his account, did you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paradisa Posted March 31, 2014 Share Posted March 31, 2014 He didn't have to hit 'not now'. Under the friend request tab - at the bottom - there is 'see all'. If you click on that, it opens a new page and from there you can see all requests and delete requests. I use that option and yes, once you delete the request, that person can add you again (not sure if it's right away or what). Good riddance to the guy - there are a million reasons I don't accept requests from people -especially HS acquaintances. Focus your time and efforts elsewhere. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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