Not sure what I should do... or if I should do anything

[mad rabbits]

I could really use some advice because I'm starting to go a bit nuts.

 

Will try to keep it short and sweet: I met a guy at my work last year. He works in a different division on the other side of the building, and he may be leaving soon. I believe his contract is up for review at the end of this month and they haven't told him whether it will be extended or not.

 

This guy did ask me out late last year and I was attracted to him but I said no because I was in a relationship at the time. I'm single again (broke up with the ex two months ago, that was a fairly short relationship, he was codependent and clingy and reacted somewhat scarily when I started distancing). This guy at work has paid me a fair bit of attention, came over to my desk a lot, tried to make me laugh. I guess he was flirting but I never thought anything of it because he also mentioned ex girlfriends quite often, so I assumed he wasn't actually interested. But I really did enjoy his company and yes I do like him. I also discovered we have some rather astonishing things in common. He has read some very unusual and little known books for example which I have also read. This surprised me a lot, its the sort of thing you would have in common with like 1% of people. But overall: I don't know him well at all.

 

Anyway, this has gone on a few months. We have never gone out outside of work, just for the odd cigarette in front of the building. Late last week I noticed he had gotten quite chilly towards me and very clipped responses to emails (we usually email at work). Yesterday I asked him over email if he was in the office and this was the conversation:

 

Him: "Who cares about anything?"

Me: (taken aback) "That's rather nihilistic. Of course I do"

Him: "No you don't. No worries I'll let you know when I'm free"

 

He never did and I haven't heard from him since then so it is now obvious he doesn't want to talk to me at all.

 

Now I don't know how to react because on the one hand I miss talking to him and it looks as if maybe I was wrong and he DID like me and he's assumed that I don't like him back so he's cutting me off to protect himself. Certainly I do have this whole casual take-it-or-leave it demeanour, I can't help it to an extent because it's like a self-protection thing.

 

On the other hand there's a cynical part of me which wonders if he's just moving on because he didn't get what he wanted, ie sex. He's a very good looking guy and other women around here do stuff like buy his lunch and bring it to his desk :S

 

So my feelings are all mixed up, yesterday I was feeling bad that he seemed hurt and now I'm starting to feel angry.

 

What should I do? Any opinions?

[Zanetka]

Hmm Im guessing maybe he met someone and is going to try that out. Once that fails or gets old, he might message you again.

[mad rabbits]

I think you may be right. He was acting like *I* am the one who doesn't care but he was taking an awful long time to reply to my messages when this happened.