Jors Posted March 25, 2014 Share Posted March 25, 2014 Hi all! I'm new to the forum, but I read from time to time articles and forums about dating tips because I don't have much experience. I am late twenties female and I haven't had much dating experience because I have focused primarily in my academics and profession. However, I started dating this man in his mid thirties who gave me the impression he has not much experience either (at the beginning he seem nervous, but not anymore). Well, here's the scoop. It happened two months ago. We went out on two dates and after that kept texting each other weekly until recently that we picked up our dates again. The reason we had this gap going on was because I had to prepare for an exam for my profession and he was working on a project too. We both agree to retake our dates after we both finish with our responsibilities so we could focus and do well on our work stuff. Anyhow, we just started dating again last week. We had to dates one day after the other. Our last date was Wednesday and it was pretty good. We had good chemistry, I opened up a bit more and we made out a lot. However, I sensed he got a bit irritated twice during our date. Once because he was caressing my shoulder and I giggle a bit because I am ticklish (I did explain that and it is true that I am ticklish). And the second time was when we were making out and for a moment we weren't and I looked him straight to his face and fix his hair a bit (he has a bit of a long hair and I really like it). Both times he asked me "what?", as in what's wrong? I try to play it cool and gave my best answer. That second time I responded that I just thought he was good looking and gave him a few pecks before leaving the car. I did heard from him on Friday, he called but at the time I couldn't respond. I returned his called on Saturday morning but he didn't respond. It has been three days already and I haven't received not even a text message. It has made me uncertain about where we stand regarding if we are still going to continue to date or if he suddenly lost interest. I have thought of texting him like "i'm going to this ____ place, what to go?" or something. but i don't know if he's testing me or if i contact him i would look clingy or needy or desperate. I sort of have lots of time on my hands right now and have given a lot of thought to this situation. That's why I want to hear someone else's opinion? What to do?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DancingFool Posted March 25, 2014 Share Posted March 25, 2014 Silence is rejection, especially silence for three days. Only other possibility is that he never got your vm/call, which can happen once in a blue moon. My rule is that I'll reach out twice and then never again. If you truly think he is testing you, do you really think that's the kind of treatment and behavior you should ever tolerate from someone? Hint: No! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MisUnderstood9 Posted March 25, 2014 Share Posted March 25, 2014 He probably thinks from your lack of response on Friday that you are not interested anymore. Even if you missed the call, you could of text back saying, busy atm but call you on Saturday. That way he atleast knew you werent ignoring him. I always took the same rule as DancingFool -- reach out twice, if no response move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emma34 Posted March 25, 2014 Share Posted March 25, 2014 I'm confused...he called you, you called him back, but he hasn't returned your call..why not? The guy is obviously interested in you...call him again...leave a message saying "hey, just want to make you got my call on saturday"...I don't buy silence is rejection in this case...after a solid makeout and several dates, you deserve an explanation if he decides he's not into you. If he in fact isn't interested, he wouldn't have called you Friday. I suspect he is insecure and leaving the ball in your court (also reflection of lack of experience on his part). i say call him again, leave a message if he doesn't answer. and then if you don't hear from THEN...then i would accept silence is rejection... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted March 25, 2014 Share Posted March 25, 2014 I agree that you should call/leave a message once more and if, again, he doesn't call back, move on and forget about him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ParisPaulette Posted March 26, 2014 Share Posted March 26, 2014 Call and/or message him one more time. Then if he still doesn't respond you have your answer. And if he gets irritated, because you giggled when he hit a ticklish spot then that's kind of weird. Most guys like that or they'll laugh back or even take it as invitation to do more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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