broke up after 18 months

[valimar]

so me and my girlfriend just broke up last week, she says she loves and cares for me just not in that way anymore, she used to drop little hints about not wanting to turn into my mother. having to tell me to tidy up after myself and take my plate down from the computer.

 

but would then go back to being a really loving girlfriend

 

ive tried to show her i still care sending her the flowers i always should of when we were together the ones she loved and always wanted from the very beginning

 

i gave her a letter explaining everything about how i felt for her, and were i see our life heading

 

none of this seems to have made any difference

 

we moved into a new place six weeks ago, the place we both wanted and could set up our life there enough room to have kids which she so desperately craved marriage and baby's,

 

i spent so much time painting decorating and getting it all done because she didnt want to live in a house that was a building site

 

three weeks ago she was talking about how great a father i would make and we have been speaking about marriage recently.

 

i made a few small mistakes like not getting up to see her the day she left to go on holiday and not going to the airport to see her off. and also the not wanting to be my mother.

 

then she went on holiday and says she realized when on holiday how down she really was from having such a good time

 

the whole plate upstairs and me being messy has now changed, i now clean up after myself and make the bed which she had never mentioned its just nice living in a tidy house something i never before sore

 

she kept saying she doesn't want to be my mother with the whole plate upstairs thing

 

i also got really into breaking bad and some times didnt go to bed with her because i was so engrossed

 

ive tried to show her how much i care with the letter flowers bleeding my heart out for three days putting us both in tears

 

and she just wont give it another shot where i genuinely believe i can make her happy again

 

we took the dog for a walk round the block the other day and she grabbed my hand saying she still likes the attention and when we are together its great but when apart its like she doesn't exist

 

but then the next few days i see her she says its all to little to late and Ive explained that if we don't give it another shot then we cant even be friends all i want is a month to prove it to her

 

but she wont even give me that

 

what do you guys thinks my best course of action?

 

leave her be or carry on trying to get her to realize what she means to me ?