lskyus Posted March 20, 2014 Share Posted March 20, 2014 I train 3 times a week at my gym, I have a personal trainer...Hes a really nice guy, he knows Im a bi guy and doesnt have any problem with it. Ive been training with him for 12 months now we have a very good friendship, we see each other outside of the gym and inside it we often sauna together, eat together and train together now 3 more times a week often training or sparring each other... He has no issues being naked with me, in fact he is constantly messing around with me. Many of the other trainers think there is something going on between us and im friendly with all of them, it doesnt bother them at all, but they say we are trading favors or getting off on each other. They said its pretty obvious we are more than just friends as we work out so much together, in fact when were in gym we are always together... outside of it, its just occasional things, but we train at another gym. Strangely enough though, we dont go out together, he seems against it, but goes out with many of his other clients... Im confused, as I feel like hes interested in me, he often asks me questions about what is it like, his gf hes not happy with and they have a very poor relationship. I love being his friend, but is there more here to our friendship here...? I know PT's should be professional and not supposed to cross the line, But the way we spend so much time together off the clock makes me think he likes me more than hes letting on? I dont know how to approach the subject with him. Hes a really nice guy and I know thats part of a personal trainers job, but hes always inviting me out to do free training with him, for runs, and saunas, we eat together, and we share lots of things in common... I didnt expect that to happen... The other trainers see me training him and wonder what the hell is going...? He also often asks me to video him, i assumed its for performance comparison, but he often does it behind closed doors. he also schedules late night training so we can spend more time together as well..often till the place closes.... Wednesday we had an unscheduled training session, he called me up, said come down, beautiful day, we did circuit training, and mucked about, but he said he really enjoyed it and that he had a lot of fun... (so did I lol) He kept texting me afterwards...lol Any ideas? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted March 20, 2014 Share Posted March 20, 2014 I imagine you're a guy? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lskyus Posted March 20, 2014 Author Share Posted March 20, 2014 Yeah sorry...edited it for clarity... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iggles Posted March 20, 2014 Share Posted March 20, 2014 Yes. He has a girlfriend, so it can only end in one of the few ways.. 1) the flirty friendship continues until you kiss/hook up then he distances himself from you, 2) you kiss/hook up on a consistent basis until he loses interest/moves onto a new target/or is confronted by the girlfriend, 3) he breaks up with his girlfriend and dates you, or 4) he breaks up with his girlfriend and doesn't date you (decides to play the field and/or keep you on the hook). There's more scenarios that end with you discarded than happily ever after. This guy is in a relationship and being drawn into emotional affairs with others (if his fellow trainers are teasing him about you two, the they can pick up a vibe of sexual interest). Not the best potential for starting up something. You need to decide if you're okay with being on the side and later discarded. I would not advise investing your heart with this guy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lskyus Posted March 20, 2014 Author Share Posted March 20, 2014 Ive met his girlfriend, he has virtually no interaction with her for weeks on end, but yes, i know the inevitible outcome here, shame as hes so much fun... Thats why I dont know how to approach him, as I know I will be discarded afterwards...but as you say, the other trainers make fun of us and think we are already doing stuff, when we are not...but we really do get on so well and training with him is so much fun...like i said its strange, i did think gym buddies is a good thing, but like I said theres more to it than that... just not sure if I want to go there, but oh boy is he worth the effort! Having witnessed how he treats her, I know the outcome already..god, geez... He makes it quite clear to peeps that we make a good team and work well together, but its the other stuff he does that melts my heart...he takes extra good care of me, and I feel it too... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lskyus Posted March 26, 2014 Author Share Posted March 26, 2014 okay i thought you would like an update on this situation, today we went out together for the first time, for a meal, chinese, he bought a friend along, i know the guy, but it was weird, i kept getting weird vibes off him, the pt. we ate the same food, drank the same green tea, we had a good time, I think he was suprised, or is he worried people will think he is gay if we go out on our own? Shame cos i had the best time... Then back to the gym, the trainer does his usual session with me, but wont let me go home, i stay for a while, we drink and talk, i finally leave around 2 hours later, then come home, then he invites me back 2 hours later, as he said he was lonely and no one to spar with on his training, he said i cheered him up and Im good company, I couldnt go because I had stuff to do, but wanted to... Hes put me on his training schedule the entire week, im doing twice a day these days, when I do want to go home, he wont let me go... he asked me about dating men or women, (re: men) he said he would never do this ever, Everyone in the gym thinks something weird is going on between us, but he insists hes just training me to everyone he meets... Its very strange... Hes a popular guy, got a girlfriend, has plenty of friends, but he is so weird with me? We have gone from 3 times a week to 7 days a week now, its so intense. He doesnt charge any extra money for the sessions either... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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