ladyluck87 Posted March 20, 2014 Share Posted March 20, 2014 The guy that I have been dating for the last six months and I decided to part ways. I wanted more of a commitment or at least security, and he wasn't ready. He said that based on things that happened that his feelings had changed and that he wanted to "talk and chill casually" still with no expectations between us. I told him that I wasn't willing to do that at this point because I needed more from him. We haven't spoken since Saturday night, and I have been miserable in my thoughts over him. I really miss him. I texted his brother and told him that his brother and I were no longer talking but he could still reach out if he wanted. He said that his brother told him that we don't talk anymore but he didn't go into why we weren't talking or anything. I really don't know what to do, and I really miss him. Should I contact him or not? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pl3asehelp Posted March 20, 2014 Share Posted March 20, 2014 Only if you've decided you're ok with what he has to offer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ladyluck87 Posted March 20, 2014 Author Share Posted March 20, 2014 Only if you've decided you're ok with what he has to offer. I am not. I can't accept that, but I've grown to him. I miss him a lot, and it's been since Saturday. I really miss him. I'm not sure what to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pl3asehelp Posted March 20, 2014 Share Posted March 20, 2014 Just be sad and miss him - it will pass, all things do. There really is no alternative if you both want different things. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ladyluck87 Posted March 20, 2014 Author Share Posted March 20, 2014 Just be sad and miss him - it will pass, all things do. There really is no alternative if you both want different things. You don't believe that he will contact me? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pl3asehelp Posted March 20, 2014 Share Posted March 20, 2014 No I don't. You left him because you didn't want what he did. Hopefully for his own sake he's movin on and will be looking for someone whose relationship goals match his. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lavenderdove Posted March 20, 2014 Share Posted March 20, 2014 OK, I think we've already been thru this on your other threads... he told you he didn't want to talk so much as you'd been before, and basically he just wants you as a casual booty call. So talking to him again won't make him want to be your BF. You'd still just be his booty call and your feelings are involved, so very unwise to keep seeing someone who's said after 6 months they want to ramp it back to just FWB/booty call. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ladyluck87 Posted March 20, 2014 Author Share Posted March 20, 2014 OK, I think we've already been thru this on your other threads... he told you he didn't want to talk so much as you'd been before, and basically he just wants you as a casual booty call. So talking to him again won't make him want to be your BF. You'd still just be his booty call and your feelings are involved, so very unwise to keep seeing someone who's said after 6 months they want to ramp it back to just FWB/booty call. You're right. I think I'm confused after talking to several therapists and getting various points of views on the matter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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