jstew2000 Posted March 20, 2014 Share Posted March 20, 2014 I've had a lot of advice to block my ex on Facebook etc.. I unfriended her on everything and deleted all pictures of us. She left every picture of us up and I have an obsession checking daily to see if they're still there... It's an addiction. It's the only thing I hang on too and I think it's preventing me from completely letting go/moving on. I know I shouldn't, but can't seem to find the will power to block her. I still get strong urges everyday. I feel lost. Any advice or anyone else dealt with this? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted March 20, 2014 Share Posted March 20, 2014 Take a break from the Facebook world...you'll survive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JA0371 Posted March 20, 2014 Share Posted March 20, 2014 Umm...delete your account completely and get out in the real world. Checking whether your pics are still there changes nothing!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jstew2000 Posted March 20, 2014 Author Share Posted March 20, 2014 I have a full time job, I'm in college, I play golf, I fish, I play the violin, I work out 5 days a week. I'm in the real world. I still feel lonely and empty sometimes. I have a history of addiction. I look a couple times a day. I don't stay on social media.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JA0371 Posted March 20, 2014 Share Posted March 20, 2014 So.....make a pact with yourself to stay off FB for 30 days...it's an addiction like anything else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kendahke Posted March 20, 2014 Share Posted March 20, 2014 I've had a lot of advice to block my ex on Facebook etc.. I unfriended her on everything and deleted all pictures of us. She left every picture of us up and I have an obsession checking daily to see if they're still there... It's an addiction. It's the only thing I hang on too and I think it's preventing me from completely letting go/moving on. I know I shouldn't, but can't seem to find the will power to block her. I still get strong urges everyday. I feel lost. Any advice or anyone else dealt with this? You know what? Quit making excuses and fake the will power if you have to and block her. Just do it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
milly007 Posted March 20, 2014 Share Posted March 20, 2014 I've had a lot of advice to block my ex on Facebook etc.. I unfriended her on everything and deleted all pictures of us. She left every picture of us up and I have an obsession checking daily to see if they're still there... It's an addiction. It's the only thing I hang on too and I think it's preventing me from completely letting go/moving on. I know I shouldn't, but can't seem to find the will power to block her. I still get strong urges everyday. I feel lost. Any advice or anyone else dealt with this? I think you know the only way this will stop is by 1.) Blocking her on Facebook 2.) Disciplining yourself to either stay off Facebook, or preventing yourself from unblocking her and looking at the pics if you decide to surf FB. Pull the plug; otherwise you will continue to feel the same way. We all know that time is what helps us through break-ups. Cutting your ties with her (and not looking at pics) is the only way to move on. Continuously looking at these pictures is preventing you from moving on and sounds torturous. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kaytie Posted March 20, 2014 Share Posted March 20, 2014 You are only torturing yourself and causing yourself more pain. It's self-sabotage. YES it's hard because the attachment is now gone, but any attempts keep that attachment by hanging on, or looking at her social media will not change the current reality and it will halt your healing. Not looking is for YOU, so YOU can heal. It's a hard thing to do and to continue to do, but eventually once you're away from it all you gain perspective and a little bit of the beginning of peace and getting yourself back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amipushy Posted March 20, 2014 Share Posted March 20, 2014 Block her and its over. It wont be as bad as you think. Will be such a relief for you. Do it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ALovingKitten Posted March 20, 2014 Share Posted March 20, 2014 You deleted the pics first so it should be okay when she also deletes them, right? I agree FB isn't helping you heal, deactivate it until you can resist the urge to snoop and when the hurt from looking subsides. I would do this on all accounts you have with her on it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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